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Can't trust now
| Mon, 09-06-2010 - 11:34pm |
I ended a 4 year affair finally 6 months ago. Actually he ended it. I didn't have the strength or charactor to follow through and do it. Anyway, I am finding it almost impossible now to trust anyone I go out with. I am afraid that they are going to hurt me, or that I will get so deep emotionally and tied to them that I will suffer again when it breaks up. I could be passing up some great people and experiences, even marriage. Has anyone else experienced this after their affair and how did they get through it?

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Hi,
You brought out something I never saw. Thank you for your insights.. I have no idea why I did what I did. You're right, I am basing my poor judgement on him. It's hard sometimes to see the truth.
Hi,
I think he felt safe bcause he had gotten me out of my abusive marriage. he seemed kind and concerned about me. we had a background in common. i just think i was vulnerable and needed to be held and there he was. even tho; I can see that what he did is deplorable, i still can't see him as evil. but then i can't seem to see my abusive ex as evil either and he left lots o damage. recently there was a seemingly nice guy who actively pursued me, but i was very afraid and stopped it. i guess i am afraid o my judgement and also that this guy might also be selish and abusive. not sure how you can trust any man after all this. all to say, i am very aware that i did something very wrong and there are many who ccould call me many names too
Thank you. i don't feel very strong. it was a no brainer to leave my H. i still had
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