Care to add your words of BS?

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Care to add your words of BS?
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 8:15am
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 5:48pm

He called me "gorgeous".

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Registered: 04-15-2010
Tue, 06-08-2010 - 6:22pm

because i was in his RL - i got to experience the stabs
to my heart when he would call her the same terms as
he would call me.

Helped to remind me that nothing for me in
that A was truly ever just mine.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Tue, 06-08-2010 - 7:47pm

He called me "sexy beast" sometimes, but when he knew that I was really needing him, it was always "baby" or "baby doll".

"I love you, baby." I'm sure he says the same thing to the new girl now. (*ugh*)

I simply referred to him as "my love". The only other time I've used that term is with my children.

-Angel

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Registered: 04-05-2010
Tue, 06-08-2010 - 7:56pm

What an F'in reality check this post has been!!! I am so embarrassed to admit that I got NONE of this. NOTHING...not one F'in term of endearment from Xap...EVER....in 7 years!!!! OMFG.... what a pathetic situation. He was so cold when it came to any ind of 'emotional' conversation. 7 years and not a thing except maybe a few times he said I was "looking good" LMAO!! I used to get a thrill if he spoke to me using my first name....LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! To me that meant something...


Oh how I needed to realize how pathetic I allowed myself to be treated. There was no BS in our "relationship"... ha ha It was what is was!!! Thanks Ladies, great reality check!

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Registered: 08-11-2009
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:09pm

Hmmmm, my x-AP always just used my first name ALOT, during everything including S..... it wasn't until our very last physical encounter after we had quit having S for over a year or so that called me "baby" during the makeout session but then only once.... he used my name as his endearment it seemed....so odd i see now.


Just recently learned my x-AP has had several S encouters and possible affairs ----hmmmmmmm i wonder how he managed never to screw that up and call me by another name!!!!


The most BS he gave me was when we ended the physical part of our A...he said he couldn't be with me like that anymore b/c he could very easily let himself fall in love with me!!!!

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Wed, 06-09-2010 - 12:36pm
It's been over so long I am thinking hard on this one.
Onward and upward.
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 3:04pm

Wow, healing. I can't imagine that he didn't utter one word of endearment in 7 years!!! What a captial A-hole!! Was he really just a cold-hearted bass-turd? That just seems weird. It's a damn good thing you came to your senses, woman!!


Let me just tell you how beautiful and lovely I think you are, sweet 'ums babycakes. (did that help a little bit? ;)


Much love to you.


~alwayst2

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Wed, 06-09-2010 - 5:22pm

Hey Always!


Kinda sad huh???? However, I guess I always knew it "was what it was". LOL...he is not the A Hole...that would be ME for allowing it!!! Oh well... it keeps me from sitting around guessing if he was all lies, and did all the things we did mean shiz to him? I knew where I stood all along...but I guess after oh lets say... 4 years in or 5 years in... I was thinking he MUST have some feelings. He told me very early on that he didnt know really what "love" was...so never knew if he even felt it for his gf (W now). He said he would say it to her, but really wasn't convinced. I sort of believed that... cause he is really an unemotionally connected man and I think. I don't have to guess at what a lot of women on her are guessing about... did I mean that little, did all the things he said mean nothing? Cause...ummmm...well NO, they didn't and I knew that. I always just thought he was never able to say how he felt because whenever we would have conversations he avoided whenever feelings were brought up...ALWAYS. Or just out and out said he felt nothing... I was just fun. What kind of state must have I been in to have allowed this when my H is amazing and worships the ground I walk on?????????????????


You are adorable to throw out some endearments for me. THANKS I am loving being a sweet babycakes!!!! Love right back at ya!!!!!

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Thu, 06-10-2010 - 11:50am

Hey Ms. Energy….good to see you posting!


Oh yea those terms of "endorsement" because he sponsored my baggage with the words and I sponsored his with mine:


He called me his “Happiness.” He would send a text saying how is “my happiness” today. Where is “my happiness?”


Well let’s see I was doing for free what a prostitute charges for…he musta been head over frickin hills with joy and happiness!


Where’s one of those Hollywood madams when you need to be pimped out? If Heidi Fleiss could’ve come outta her drug induced stupor and I could have stepped outta the A fog, we could’ve made some money!


(Hey TU mine musta been like yours with the recycling because his new GF was his “sunshine.” So he took happiness and added a lemon twist to it and bam…sunshine. Wonder what he’ll call the next one…his happy-shine...wait that sounds like something that belongs on the bj thread/litany thread.... and ah on second thought…who cares.)


Then there was “Best Friend.”


I was his con-fi-dant/friend-a-pist acting oh so interested and offering helpful advice in all aspects of his pitiful existence.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 07-21-2009
Thu, 06-10-2010 - 2:20pm

"If only we would have met before we were each married".