caring where it matters

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Registered: 04-20-2009
caring where it matters
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Mon, 05-17-2010 - 9:10pm
I just got back from the vet where I had to put down my 13 year old little lady dog. I am devastated. Thinking now how relieved I am to not have xAP or the A in my life -- I can focus on what really matters: my family, my 3 DDs, myself. This would not have been possible only a few months ago. It's so much better to be alive, focused, in the moment with what really matters -- not all the b*llsh*t that comes with the f'd up A-life.
Dee
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Registered: 04-15-2010
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 9:29pm

Dear Dee,

Your post brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry to hear about your pet. I can only image the mixture of feelings you were/are experiencing.

Gosh, and that phrase "caring where it matters" - well it's haunting. I looked at my DD today - she is 4, and I thought to myself, you were not quite 2 when this all started - you went from a baby into a girl and I wasn't even 'there'. It is like seeing your life again - only better - because you lost your vision there for a while and couldn't see. It is a most incredible feeling, isn't it? I find it to be bitter sweat. I am so grateful to see them - to see my children, my family and friends with these new eyes. I am still fighting to see them - sometimes they get a little blurry, but with a little work, I bring them back into focus.

Thank you for sharing.

Much love to you,

((Hugs))

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010
LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 03-17-2010
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 9:46pm

Hi Dee,


So nice to hear this.

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Registered: 05-05-2010
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 10:31pm

Dee, I'm so sad to hear about your sweet dog. I have two dogs of my own and love them like my babies. Hang in there and sending big HUGS your way tonight.

-Angel

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Registered: 03-17-2010
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 11:06pm

Dee,


Please don't think i am callous not to feel your hurt about your decision for your dear pet.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Mon, 05-17-2010 - 11:06pm

Dee,


Ohhh….so sorry to hear about your dog. They become part of the family. It’s hard to make the decision to let them go but it’s selfish to keep them here for our benefit if they are suffering. You made the right decision.


It is so much better to be here, really here, dealing with it all the good and the bad and not instead spinning on the hamster wheel we call an A.


Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 6:30am

(((Dee)))


I'm so sorry about losing your dog. I remember the pain of having to put down 4 of mine over the years but you are right, my dear, when you say:

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 03-08-2009
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 8:14am
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Registered: 08-06-2007
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 9:17am

My heart goes out to you Dee. I remember having to put down our dog during my A. I know I was sad, but looking back, I'm not sure what I felt. I remember crying in the Vet's office, but beyond that it's all blank.

I hope you find some sunshine to brighten your days. I'm so sorry about your pet. hugs to you.

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Registered: 02-02-2010
Tue, 05-18-2010 - 9:37am

Dee-


I am so so sorry. I am a HUGE dog lover (my H and I have 2) and I look at them everyday and hug them and apologize for being willing to walk away from them when

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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