Cell phone discovery

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Cell phone discovery
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Mon, 01-25-2010 - 10:33am

Well Friends let me give you some advise about putting blocks on your cell phone.

myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)

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Registered: 03-08-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 10:54am

Ok girl this is important!

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 11:01am

I say you still earned every single one of those 11 days. I have worked with women who have been iv drug users, whose abusive partners have held them down and injected them when they have been on a path
to stop using (because surely they would leave their using partners if they stopped using and their fog cleared)... sure they got the high and feel goods, but they didn't go looking for them! The same thing happened to you.

Onward you go (-:

j.

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 12:09pm

Thank you ladies.

myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 12:29pm

Well, if you had hung up immediately, and deleted a message that might have come in and had not engaged in conversation, I would have said "Whoo hoo for you,


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Registered: 01-18-2010
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 12:53pm

Sorry Jodi, MyShadow, Confused,

Everything that Clarity said is true. U invited him right back in. Looking in the healing library about what being "friends" reall means. He was just making sure he had you if he so incline to give you the time of day.

Did he call from a different number? Or did you see it was him in the caller ID and took the call, if so you were wanting your fix too...if he called from a different number, call your carrier and MAKE SURE you are truly blocked. To test if the companies blocking really works, block your home or a friends phone temporarily as a test. If you really want to cut em off you can.

Talking to him was too much. I know its easier said than done, but then the message would have been clear. Now you are already on the hook, now its just a matter of you getting reeled back in, either by yourself or him...

U can get reeled in, or you can take the necessary steps to end this and get on with your life. I am hoping you take this as learning experience and do whatever you can to protect yourself in the future, if you want to...

Try not to let this incident throw you off your path...if you need to me reminded of who he is and how he hurt you, re-read your old posts. Do u want to even be kind to someone like that? Do you even want to entertain him?

He's been so BUSY...too busy for you. So why is he taking up space in your mind? In time it will be less and less, I promise. Get back on your horse and keep on YOUR journey.

Also good you came here to discuss

Hugs...

Luvin

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 12:54pm

I have to agree with Clarity. You shouldn't have engaged him in conversation. and what is this crap that he's been busy for 11 days while you've been sweating bullets, having near nervous breakdowns, not sleeping, finding it hard to get dressed and motivated, being angry at everyone? Whatever the case, it

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 08-27-2008
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 1:30pm

I think youre fooling yourself and trying to justify it. NC means NC(IMHO)...thats

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Registered: 01-17-2010
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 1:43pm

OMG…you Vets have burst my bubble over here.

myShadow (cuz surely this isn't the real me)

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 1:58pm

myshadow ...

I do not believe for one second anyone here would pull the plug on you. And there are too many ways to feel ashamed after an A to not just live and learn from this unfortunate, momentary set-back.

J.

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Mon, 01-25-2010 - 2:00pm

We don't have the authority to pull the plug on anyone, well, unless you filled out a Poster Directive :)


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