changing perspectives

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Registered: 10-19-2010
changing perspectives
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Fri, 11-26-2010 - 5:05am

Ok....time for some late night Foggy

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 1:34pm

Oh Foggy.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 2:00pm

Foggy,

You're going to beat this.

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 3:41pm

My PRAYERS are FLOWING GENEROUSLY towards you now - I will pray without ceasing,

PLEASE KNOW YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!!!!!!

I know of at least 10 women that would fly to be at your bedside if asked - to help, nurture and support you.

Your COURAGE to share so much of yourself prior to this monumental RL undertaking - is a TESTAMENT to your spirit and desire to open yourself to being LOVED as much as you are LOVING.

Fervent Prayers to you, Brother,

Michelle

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 4:14pm

Hi Foggy,

I have not had the pleasure of meeting you yet but have read some of you posts and know you are special here.

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Registered: 08-18-2008
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 4:20pm

Sending you positive vibes and well wishes.

There is so much to the healing journey than simple ending an A and going NC. I agree that we need to learn to respect our own boundaries. I would add that includes a change in our behavior.

I’m sorry to read about the tragic outcome of your D-day thus far. I have witnessed on the boards Ms rebuilt when all seemed to be lost. I have also seen the opposite. Seems you will have a lot on your plate post surgery. I wish you much wisdom in sorting through it all. However, I hope you would conduct yourself as a MM with appropriate boundaries until you and your DW have made a concrete and clear decision on whether to rebuild or end your M.

In an A, we certainly gave ourselves permission to cross boundaries and gave excuses as to why we were entitled to do so. It is important that we re-evaluate our perspective/actions/behaviors in all areas of our life. We certainly don’t want to re-engage in behaviors that got us into this mess in the first place.

When women seek my advice off board and I am happy to give them support, however I never ask them to substitute my input in place of the support of the board. In AA, a Sponsor is not meant to replace AA meetings. I hope you would see the value of coming to the board as a means for community support in an open forum.

Wishing you a healthy recovery post surgery as well as post A,

E1

Whether you think you can or you think you can’t you are probably right.

A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 4:24pm

UPDATE!

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 9:51pm
Thanks so much for passing this on, Bodhi. Foggy was heavy on my mind all day.

AND FOGGY, when you check the board again, "Thumbs Up, Dude!!" :-)

((Hugs)))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 10:03pm

Bodhi,

Thank you so much for posting this update and letting us know how he is doing.

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Registered: 10-19-2010
Fri, 11-26-2010 - 11:54pm

Hey Iddy and all,

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Sat, 11-27-2010 - 12:09am

((((Foggy))))

I'm so glad to see this post from you and to know that all our prayers and well wishes helped and comforted you before, during and after the procedure. I am looking so very forward to getting to know you better, know your story, and follow your progress.

I am definitely at a point where I am past the "missing him" stage and am now beginning to tackle and understand my issues. What a hell of a journey, huh?? I am going to go back and read more postings from you and others. I am finding that reading about people's well thought out posts regarding

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.