changing perspectives

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changing perspectives
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Fri, 11-26-2010 - 5:05am

Ok....time for some late night Foggy

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 3:53pm
Hello R4M,
I am sorry that I have not responded to one of your posts, but your arrival coincided with one of my downtimes in my very streaky posting around here. I have watched your progress and am very proud of the steps you are making toward your wellness. I was very glad to see the elimination of thoughts of no love for you as well ;) I am sorry I did not mean to offend with my joke about Ambien, I know that must have been a very difficult time but I do hope it was that final catalyst for never turning back to that place again.

Thanks as well for your your thoughts from the medical field. They were very comforting to read and reinforce the words from the doctors after surgery. I had a wedge restriction surgery done, and was very lucky that my trip to the doctors for the lingering cold detected the growing cancer at an early stage. In fact they say they rarely catch this type of cancer when it occurs in someone as young as me, so I feel so blessed by the fates that led me to get a checkup. I will have to go through a few rounds of chemo because the doctors want to be sure that it is completely eradicated. But thank you for your belief in my recovery and for all the thoughts and prayers heading my way. they were fully felt and deeply appreciated.
I know some good will come of this!
Take care and keep up the good work,
peace&light
Foggy
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 4:02pm
E1,
Thank you so much for the vibes and well wishes, they were greatly appreciated and very welcomed.

I also very much appreciate your words of comfort on the fallout of my D-day. I do have a lot to sort out after and during this recovery...and hearing your experience of seeing things rebuild when all seems lost is a comforting one.

I also thank you for your other words. yes they did hit me hard, but these in combination to your latest response elsewhere have been very powerful. The act of looking into xAPs life certainly is one that crossed many boundaries that should have been sured up long ago. And even though at this point it has been very difficult to even get my DW to talk to me, I am 100% sure that even peaking through that window would represent behavior that was dishonest and disrespectful, two things which I was way to often while entangled in the A.

Thank you for your encouragement to continue to post on here. I certainly see the value of coming to the board as a means of community support, and is exactly why I posted this thread in the first place. I look forward to further participation and your wonderful insight on many issues. Thank you for even with the shocking news contained within, being willing to address some of the other issues here. I am sorry that at first I was so sensitive about your response...I blame it on the drugs :)

Thanks again for the thoughts and prayers
Peace&light
Foggy
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 4:16pm
Hey there (((NC)))
You are never late, everything comes just In Time. Thank you so much for your thoughts, prayers, and presence in my life. I am sorry that things are still so rough for you, but keep fighting. I know you say your house could use some perspective, and I do not disagree, but keep in perspective that at least for now you are in the same house with your DH...I do not have that luxury, and it makes fighting for us very difficult.
I got support from family alright, but my family extends well beyond any that blood binds. I have a family here that was critical in helping me. I have a family of friends through music who are some of the most amazing human beings I have ever met and sent many emails with similar out pouring of love of those contained here. Thanks for everything, and keep fighting and keep us updated. My thoughts and vibes are with you and your DH in hopes of healing and forward progress.
Peace&light
Foggy
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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 4:23pm
Dear Vanessa,
Please do not apologize, all things happen in good time. I do very much appreciate your thought and prayers and will hold them close as I begin the long road to full recovery from this. I know you are fresh here, and I am so glad that you have come. It is a long road, and bumpy at times but stick around and you will gain back that one thing you need so badly...your SELF.

When you wrote this "and always remember that you are loved and respected by all that meet you." it brought a tear to my eye. You are right and I always love and respected by everyone who meet me...and blown away by my caring and compassion. The problem is that I gave away the right to be loved and respected by people when I spent 10 months lying and cheating my way through a deceitful and illicit relationship. I have been working hard to regain that portion of my character that does cause everyone who meets me to "light up". Thank you so much for reminding me that it is still there, even if buried by self-loathing and self-doubt at times.

Keep up the good work and thanks again.
peace&light
Foggy
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Registered: 10-17-2010
Mon, 11-29-2010 - 6:49pm

Foggy,

I am so glad to hear you are feeling relatively well and that your outlook is excellent.

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 7:38pm

Foggy,

How wonderful to hear that you are on the mend! Your posts are spirited and lively, and you sound very much like a man who is going about the business of healthful living. Bravo!

How funny that you read my original lengthy reply to your post.

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...

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