Checkin' in!

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Registered: 01-26-2011
Checkin' in!
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Fri, 01-28-2011 - 5:32pm

Just wanted to check in to tell all of you that are so wonderful and supportive, that I have NOT fallen off the NC wagon!! Well, we did pass each other while driving, but I just stared straight ahead!! Yesterday was great, I felt like a huge weight was lifted off me! Today was rough, really rough.

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Registered: 05-15-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 6:36pm

Hi Dixie,

Thanks for the update!!

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Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 01-28-2011 - 9:57pm
Dixie,

You're doing it woman. One moment at a time, until you know with EVER fibre of your Being that you are FREE. It is such an incredible feeling. Keep working hard, remember the long term goals for your life, and embrace the pain as a sign of growth, and personal connection to all those things/people you hold dear. The pain will ease and be replaced with dignity and self-love.

TU.
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Registered: 08-10-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:21am
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Registered: 08-25-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:26am
Dixie,
glad to see you have stuck around. This week unfortunately will NOT be your hardest week - but it WILL give you some strength to get through the really ugly days. Feel. Let yourself cry. Own those feelings and then remind yourself all the reasons you are doing this. Be present, renew old hobbies, plant flowers and love yourself.
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:40am

(((Dixie)))

Yay for you!!! Driving by and staring straight ahead. YOU ARE DOING THE WORK. That is what it takes to really get past the A. I resisted some of the advice given here for a long, long time because I thought I was different, stronger than some of the others here. Nope. I fell back into my A twice because I wasn't really doing the work. I was more just hoping I could get over him, without being fully COMMITTED to getting over him. Committed means YOU DO THE WORK.

You are going to start having some awesome "light-bulb" moments. Please share those with us. I remember a couple phrases that are passed along around here and when you get it, you truly get it.

Healing doesn't mean "getting over" him. It means fixing yourself. -- Your goal is NOT to quit missing xAP. Your goal is to figure out why you thought turning to an A was the answer to your problems. Your goal is to discover your personal issues and address them so that you can live a happier, healtheir life.

JAM - Just a man. They were not knights in shining armor. They were simply men, with broken pieces. They fart, scratch, belch, lie, cheat and usually have big egos--not any magical powers. Just. A. Man.

It just

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 08-18-2008
Sat, 01-29-2011 - 7:51pm

It is a rollercoaster and there are a lot of feelings to process through. You are doing well.

Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 10-16-2010
Sun, 01-30-2011 - 3:26am

Dixie!

You are on your way woman!