choosing to live with health and decency
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|Mon, 03-31-2003 - 9:18am|
There are NO EXCUSES for having an A. None. They happen because people who are in a marriage either make friends with someone at work or reconnect with an old friend/make a new one and then it is off and running. But it doesn't change the fact that there is a relationship waiting at home that needs to be attended to one way or the other. To run from that responsibility is immature behavior. Women or men who allow themselves to get involved with a MM/MW are NAIVE. I was one of them. I have learned and will not put myself in that position ever again regardless of who it is. When we GIVE LOVE, we deserve to get it in the same way - by being respected. There is no real respect in an A.
I've had ladies here ask me to please tell them that it gets better and it does. But in order for that to happen, the bad behavior has to stop. You have to grow a backbone and tell the MM/OM that this is just not right and until the relationship can be right, it has to end. When MMNEEDS posted this message, it brought back way too many memories for me even though my own A was very different. But it also showed me that the decision I made was right on. If we don't demand respect from the people who are in our lives, we are not going to get it.
Whether or not those of you who are reading this are married or single, I hope this post makes some sense to you because it isn't about your DH, your W, your OM, your MM or your OMM/OMW - IT IS ALL ABOUT YOU AND GETTING IT RIGHT!
God speed everyone - hope you all have a happy and healthy week!