Christmas Crumbs...

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Christmas Crumbs...
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Sun, 12-26-2004 - 3:30pm

Just thinking about women in an A that get so thrilled about their Christmas crumbs. "he spent an hour with me this morning" (means he got some sex and then went home to have christmas dinner with his wife) or "he texted! YAY!"...it just sounds so sad how some of us fool ourselves into thinking the little gestures make our whole holiday and life worth living. Aren't we worth more?

In my case I am the one married with an XOM, and holidays would KILL me because I felt so guilty that I wasn't giving XOM more of me. What a joke. He did just fine spending holidays with whomever he spent them with and I am sure he was fine yesterday surrounded by family and friends while I felt sick to my stomach all day and couldn't enjoy my family.

I'm so glad that I"m starting to see reality and the A for what it really was. I truly and honestly thought that this man was the love of my life. I"m not so sure of that anymore. I"m so glad that I hung up on him this morning. I was the married one but I was also the one taking crumbs. Divorce is most probably in my future but I'm doing it for ME, not for a man with no balls.

Okay, I got that out...I feel better. I just want everyone here to know their worth...to stop being thrilled to death because a man sent you a text message. It just all sounds so pathetic and sad. A man is having dinner with his wife and children and you're thrilled because you got to watch Dr. Zhivago alone and you got a text message...wooopeeee! Sounds like love to me.

Jazzdiva

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Registered: 12-04-2004
Mon, 12-27-2004 - 12:20am

Hi She,

You summed that up very well. We are worth more than that!!!! We have lives, families, people who love us etc. It is hard to understand the thrill isn't it. Thanks for putting it into perspective!!!!!!!!!!!

Midnight

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Registered: 11-29-2004
Mon, 12-27-2004 - 9:54am

Hi,

I agree. Everyone is worth more than that.

But I have to dissect this a litte bit. The reason that some of the women here are so thrilled with just a text message is that it signifies that they were being thought of. That is all many women want - to know that someone is thinking of them. That is why the opposite is true too - sending a text messages takes 60 seconds, yet when men fail to do that, it sends women into a huge spiral. Because that 60 seconds is so easy to fulfill, yet it means so much to the recipient.

I think that when someone is thrilled about a text message, it says that they just want to be cared about, and don't need presents, or compliments, or be showered with affection.

I don't think it means you are pathetic, or are willing to settle for almost nothing. I think it means that you care about what really matters in life - love.

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