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| Fri, 04-23-2004 - 12:18am |
Not sure if you remember me....I posted last year this time. Not sure of the name I posted under, but I was the gal whose H found out about the A via this board....
Anyway, just wanted to thank you for you invaluable advice...you know, I copied your posts, and read them regularly, for a long time.
I got out of my miserable marriage, after having yet another EMA. H and I have been separated for 5 months now, and I feel better than ever. This is better for everybody involved, me, the kids, and I do believe this is better for my H. How unfair it was to have a wife who was doing the things I was. I don't really have any regrets, for I have learned a lot about myself..and have come so far. I am now seeing a man that I was talking to during my marriage. He too was married, and is also in the process of getting divorced. I don't think that either of us did this specificly "for" each other, but it was definitly motivation to get out of our disfunctional marriages, and move on, either together, or separatly.
It's so odd to be in a relationship where there is mutual respect, and understanding.
I've honestly never felt the way I do about this man that I have found. I know there are many sceptics that say....there will be trust issues, yadda,yadda. But somehow trough all of the mess that the EMA's brought to me, I found strength i never knew I had...I got my self esteem back...I learned to look inside myself...and I learned a LOT about people, and their true intentions. I know I am gonig to be OK, with or without this other guy. But I have a hunch....he's the guy for me. I am so in love I sometimes make myself wanna hurl. LOL
Anyway...I just wanted to say thanks...you are a very knowledgeable man, and you gave me a dose of reality just when I needed it.
I'll be checkin in from time to time...good luck to all!
Giant hugs to all!
Amy in IL

Thank you amy, for the compliments, and also, my apology for the delay in posting a response. I was in Arkansas fishing for trout for a few days.....
AND, Congratulations on moving your life forward.....that mutual respect thing sure can throw you for a loop, can't it? And believe me, it does get better and better as you approach all of your relationships with that minimum standard.
Good luck to you and the new man in your life. I hope you find this relationship as satisfying as I have found mine to be....
cl-nre