cl - NRE....Trust Issue

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Registered: 03-30-2003
cl - NRE....Trust Issue
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Sat, 11-06-2004 - 8:26am

I'm not sure where to post this

Love
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:04am

Answers to your questions of life after an affair with a former affair partner. Everyone on the board reading this, please remember that what my current life is like is an EXTREME rarity and the result of many, many hours invested in establishing a life very different from the life that contributed to my affairs arising in the first place. My current life could not exist without having resolved the issues that were in my first marriage and a dedication to keeping the failures of the first marriage out of this one.


Here are my answers to the questions of your post. Questions are in quotation marks followed by my answer:


"I want to know from you about how you and your current wife handled the trust issue when you began your relationship after divorce"


It was a non-issue. There wasn't any doubt that we trusted one another completely. Trust has NEVER been an issue between us. We both understand why I had affairs for so many years and that I found what I was looking for all those years with my relationship with OW/CW. And vice versa.


"Also did you have any contact at all while you were separated from your xW?"


Contact had ceased based upon the realization that there couldn't be an above-board out-in-the-open relationship unless we were both single. I knew what needed to be done to have a life with OW. If I wanted it I needed to get off the fence and make it happen. Without any further contact or adieu. Once I got off the fence things progessed on my end with clarity.


"...but did you both go to counseling together? Individually?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-30-2003
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 4:16pm

Thank you for your candor and attention to my post.

Love
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 11-11-2004 - 9:54pm
You're welcome...good luck (n/t)