Class of Nov 2010

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Class of Nov 2010
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Thu, 09-30-2010 - 9:10am

Where are my gals - the ones who started around Nov 2009? If you're lurking, please pop in to let us know how you are. I miss so many of you!

lonely at 11 months,
Dee

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Registered: 12-31-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 9:31am

Hey Dee,



I don't really count (I'm class of Dec 2010), but I'm still here.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 12:23pm

CSN!
So nice to hear from you! I was looking at some old posts last night and got all veklempt wondering where are our peeps from back in the day! We need to have a reunion, don't you think. If for no other reason than to represent for the newbie and freshman tweeners.

If you keep up off-board with anyone, tell them to stop in.

So glad to hear you're continuing to do well!
Best,
Dee

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Registered: 12-11-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 1:29pm
Hi Dee!
I am here too, been lurking mostly. Full time student again and work keeps me busy. Also, most of you are so amazing with your advice and so articulate with your words that I sometimes feel that I don't measure up, so I just lurk. But know that I care about each and every one of you! My xap no longer consumes me. In fact he feels more like just a distant memory, somebody I once loved, but don't obsess about anymore. I am a bit worried about my situation at the moment though. I swore my defenses would always be up when it came to ever being in a situation like that again. A classmate has taken an interest in me (what is it about me and the "young ones"???) He has helped with a class that is like Chinese to me. Over the course of a couple of months he has been on my mind constantly...CRAP!! I know I need help, more therapy. My husband and I are doing well, but I always struggle this time of year because he is NEVER home. We do text throughout the day, but I still can't seem to get this other guy off my mind. He wants to talk about ME constantly, and I know that sounds narcissistic, but it's intoxicating and to top it off he's beautiful. This must be me wanting my youth back or something, I don't know, but dear God I need help. At least my xap is no where in my thoughts. There is so much of the semester left, I have to figure out a plan. Anyway, thanks for listening. I'm glad you're doing well.
AAI
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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Thu, 09-30-2010 - 2:09pm

AAI,



Through my binoculars I can see you standing at the top of another slippery slope. It's time to nip this is the bud PDQ, my friend. Whatever it takes; more text messages and emails to hubby, more counseling, more positive self talk, NO MORE obsessing about this guy, and DEFINITELY NO MORE conversations about you. Why do you need this validation/attention? And why would you even be going there again anyway? You wouldn't have brought it up if you didn't want us to stop you.....So....STOP IT!!



You know how it starts, AAI. Get your butt back to EAS and read, read, read. Don't give us this crap that your writing doesn't measure up to what others have to say. Every word written on here is important, no matter who does the writing.

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 12-11-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 9:24am
Yes, I am reading the writing on the wall. I know it's crazy and I am going to stop with the obsessing. I have put a plan in place to keep my distance and I will stick to it! Thank you Iddy for caring. To answer your question about why do I need the validation/attention....well, isn't that the question of the year for most of us?? If I had the time/money I would be in a therapist office at this very moment. Thanks again, and have a wonderful day!
AAI
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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:32am

AAI,



<<I have put a plan in place to keep my distance and I will stick to it!>>



Now that's what I wanted to hear. I was going to mention setting boundaries ASAP, but it

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:18pm

TOTAL 911! and worthy of a hijack, Iddy.

Alice, I am relived to hear that you're staying aware of the on-going challenges and you're still striving. When I read your first post here, I thought, "OHNO! She's going to end up in Class of 11/2010 AND Class of 2013, if she's not careful!"

It just goes to show that getting over the A is a part of the battle; getting over OURSELVES is the real war.

Keep up the fight!
xoxo
Dee

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Registered: 12-11-2009
In reply to: deeulta
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 5:31pm
Amen to getting over OURSELVES sister!!!