The Clearing Fog

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Registered: 10-09-2012
The Clearing Fog
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 7:16pm

Well for those of you that know my story you will know its a roller coaster, the physical A ended in September but emotionally it has continued, until yesterday!! Over the last week xap and I have been for coffee twice, lunch once, had a few drinks and he left me a Xmas gift in my drawer at work, a heart shaped chocolate. I certainly don't want to get back into the A but I do love him and his friendship. Then on Friday he had the day off work and I received the most evil, viscous text from his wife telling me to stop this obsession I have with him, and why don't I get it that he hates me and wants nothing to do with me, she even called me a dumb slut, I was so upset I felt betrayed by xap, I have no idea what brought this on?? So I did nothing, then yesterday NYE at work I couldn't even look at him, he never spoke to me either, I am confused?? Did he know about the text?? So I forwarded it to him and at the bottom I put "consider me out of your life for ever" I don't know what I was expecting in reply, but what I got was another text from his wife saying "thank f@@k for that". 

where to from now?? Do I confront him? Or do I try to ignore him, not sure what to do?? Please help! 

One thing I do know is "we are never ever ever getting back together"

Happy New Year to all 

T xxx


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Community Leader
Registered: 11-04-2012
Wed, 01-02-2013 - 10:30am

that IS funny, your Dad being a bus mechanic!

And now that you spilled your beans about your name in another post, I am going to get on your case about changing it...and pronto!  The names we choose should have absolutely no memory attached to our AP.  Choose something strong and powerful and life affirming.

Years ago, I appointed myself Chairwoman of the Change Your Name Committee and everyone here is a Board Member who can suggest doing so as they see fit.

But now I am on to you, and I will rag on you 'til you do...believe me, you don't want that.Just let us know it is you by putting a "was Tily"...just for a while...we want to stop typing that name altogether ultimately.

I'm really proud of you for taking the steps to avoid him as much as you can...good girl.

I have made that wish that you will be the chosen one...even tho I thought all us Hebs were the chosen ones...but okay. for you. Laughing  You have to keep us posted.

Onward and forward.



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