Clearing out the trash

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Clearing out the trash
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Sun, 03-13-2011 - 9:41pm

Five minutes ago I accidentally deleted a work email, and went to my trash folder to retrieve it. And suddenly I was confronted by

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:44am

No one has the power to hurt us without our permission. (or something like that)

HERE IS EVIDENCE OF THAT.

You took the words that were directed at you and made them about what they're truly about.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-14-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:50am

WAIT A MINUTE!

Youre feeling crappy about yourself???!!

Well why didnt you say so?!?!?

KAT,

YOU are Brilliant!

Do you know from the moment YOU arrived here, I felt the class meter go up a little. (and you're in GREAT company woman)

You have been

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:58am

Newlife you are a beautiful woman.

Ok how do I PM people? I have tried and tried..... help ?

You are what you consistently do
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 8:54am
Iggy click on their name and it takes u to their posts right on top it says send private message click on that.
Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 9:33am

Kat,

First of all, as I read all of these posts, I want to send you (((((((hugs)))))))...you have been a wonderful encouragement to me on my fairly new journey to NC forever and newly out from my D-Day.

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Registered: 03-11-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 9:48am

Hi

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 12:35pm

(((Kat)))

I'm kinda late but wanted to give you a hug.

7 weeks a good length of time, but in some respects, still very new - I'm right behind you, as you know.

I saw my xAP very recently on my floor and it really threw me for a loop and I just hated that seeing him still had such an impact on me.

You handled it well, and NOT wanting to respond is an indicator of your healing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2009
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 1:10pm
Kat,
You've gotten some great replies which I hope have lifted your spirits somewhat but there is one question you need to ask yourself....

What were you expecting to read when you opened that email? IMO, this is where everyone who reads an email after weeks/months of healing is not thinking straight, and I don't care how much NC you have under your belt. If any of you actually think that they are going to say something so profound that it is going to make everything okay in your world, you have a ton of more work to do on yourself. Even if it was a full confession of undying love, do you actually think this would rock your world in a good way? In an email, no less?

Time to get real, everyone. DELETE those frig'n emails and texts. They are all ticking time bombs that usually blow up in your face. Remember...They are from XAPs...and not anyone ever worth ripping open wounds for.

((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 6:43pm

Hi Michelle,

I'm sorry it's taken me so long to reply. My mother always used to tell me that my greatest character flaw is that I "make people fall in love with me" so compliments are complicated things for me, KWIM? I've taught myself to accept one-line compliments graciously, but your

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 7:09pm

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Iddy, I wasn't thinking. That was the problem. I did not engage my brain at all and just dumbly opened