Clearing out the trash

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Clearing out the trash
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Sun, 03-13-2011 - 9:41pm

Five minutes ago I accidentally deleted a work email, and went to my trash folder to retrieve it. And suddenly I was confronted by

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 7:12pm

Never, thanks for the hug. It feels great knowing that you're right behind me on this journey. Seeing them/hearing from them does hurt, but we are healing and learning better ways

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Mon, 03-14-2011 - 7:16pm

Spiffy and Hearts - way to go clearing out all that toxic trash and deleting those emails!! The tweeners and vets are so right when they say that nothing good can come from them. You are both doing so well - I can see your growth every day and

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 12:16am

Kat,

I really like the Victor Frankl quote.

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 1:31am
Thanks Dee :) I'm so pleased you like the quote. Frankl's book "Man's search for meaning" is one of my favourite books. He was an extraordinary man.
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Registered: 10-16-2010
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 1:50am

katniss when i read your words from him:

I'm too selfish to care about other people's feelings. The

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Registered: 01-24-2011
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 2:49am
Thanks Melinda. The academic in me felt like telling him that no system of "karma" I know of pre-emptively visits abuse on young people as anticipatory punishment for later ending an affair (boy, that would be quite some religion wouldn't it!)

And that even if I did choose to tell people he had been cheating on his W (which I never would) it would not in fact be "slander" because a statement has to be false to be "slanderous". So there was really no need for him to make thinly veiled threats about what would happen to me if I ever slandered him.

And that it's really sick to tell me he's "smiling" over memories of times he saw me hurting and in tears.

But all of that is totally beside the point because that stuff is all about him and not about me. So I saved my breath and just thought "yeah, whatever" and moved on with my day.

Great advice on the sage :)
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Tue, 03-15-2011 - 8:03am
Kat,
You are a precious gem. You really are. I hope you can see and warmly accept that. :)

Hugs,
Alwayst
Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.

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