Coming to terms with some things

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Registered: 01-30-2006
Coming to terms with some things
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Tue, 02-08-2011 - 7:32pm

Thank you all for your kind welcome back and words of support.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 7:49pm
Hi WWW,

You will discover many more reasons as to why you entered the affair as you navigate through your healing journey. This post is a great start, the revealtions you have today will evolve into more revelations about yourself that will open yourself up to knowing yourself on a better level. You will need to dig deep as to why you accepted bad behaviour from him and yourself but you can do it, your post shows me you are already questioning the why's in regards to you which is so important. The focus on you is very important and it sounds to me that you are ready for that focus. I am very happy you are back WWW :)
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Registered: 08-10-2010
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 10:42am
I was so enamored of the external package (not the size of the real package....that's the teeny weeny) the handsome, smart, sophisticated, charming person he presented to me.
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Registered: 01-30-2006
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 1:56pm

How do I find what was missing?

I've been in T for 2 years!!

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 2:12pm
Are you saying that having an A is what provided your happiness? It sure sounds that way. Maybe you need to rephrase your question to "When do I find what makes me happy?" and leave it at that. One should have NOTHING to do with the other.

Happiness comes from within, WIWWM. You will never find it somewhere outside of yourself. Keep digging and obviously keep going to therapy. The answer will come when you least expect it.

I am sorry you are sad today, but that's par for the course. And about that cake? It was toxic and a good thing you've thrown it out. ;-)
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 2:16pm

What -

Have you read the book "The Missing Piece"? If not, read it - it will take you about 2 minutes. The moral of the story is that you are NOT missing a piece. You have to roll along all by yourself and smooth out those rough edges. The more you move forward like this, the easier you will roll. Shel Silverstein is amazing. It's OK to be sad. You're human. But work on finding the happiness within yourself. And like my Zenseday post, be patient :)

Bodhi

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Registered: 08-10-2010
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 2:19pm

I agree with Iddy - happiness must come from within... Maybe you have to change your thought pattern and say this :

I love myself.

I accept myself as I am.

I'm happy and content.

The world is at my fingertips.

I am open to change.

I do not resent