Cominginfromtherain is a Proud!

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Community Leader
Registered: 11-04-2012
Cominginfromtherain is a Proud!
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 11:06am


You made it!  One year year affair free.  I know, I know, it has not come without a struggle...and it was a hard lesson. Your willingness to put it out here, to admit that you do still struggle, but to also reinforce that it does get better over time has been real...that we just don't miraculously get over it...that we have to do everything in our power to push through to the other side...that it takes hard work.

Have I told you lately that I love you?  Well, I do.  I'm so proud to have you sitting here, right beside me, and all the other Veterans here in Vetville.  

Here is your Medal of Honor.  It is not's rather heavy...maybe because we don't want you just flying away...we need you right here...on the ground...doing what you do best..reaching out and helping others by imparting your insight and words of wisdom.

Congratulatory ((((HUG))))

Clarity...your biggest fan


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Registered: 05-23-2003
Fri, 01-04-2013 - 2:11pm

Rain my love -

I wanted to add my voice to the chorus of woo hoo's for you reaching vethood.  :)

I know that it hasn't been easy - but you stayed the course, and you kept on putting one foot in front of the other, and here you are.

I hope you know that I adore you - and that I think you are a simply amazing woman.  I had all the faith in the world that you would get here - and I am so happy that you did.




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Registered: 11-05-2012
Wed, 01-02-2013 - 4:24pm

Congrats Rainie!!! I know what a struggle it was for you.You did good!!!

Forgiveness is the fragrance that the rose flower sheds on the heel that crushed it. ~unknown

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Wed, 01-02-2013 - 2:08pm

Congrats Rainie!  You have been a wonderful asset to this board.  We all truly appreciate your honnesty

big hugs


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Registered: 06-24-2011

Thank you so much everyone, y'all brought tears to my eyes.  In a good way :)  I am especially touched that some of you made such an effort to get here to wish me well, since I  know many of us are experiencing technical difficulties.

I wasn't able to post form my phone the last few days, so now I am at my desktop and will hope my reply does not get eaten!

It has been an interesting year.  I learned an awful lot about  myself once I was out of the fog and really started looking at why I was so vulnerable to this A.   I believe I am a better me for having learned these things.

The pain is so much less than it was this time last year.  Today, last year, I was wondering if I could really go the distance.  I had never, in the 13 years I had known him, gone more than a few months without talking to him even during the 7 year period where we did not see each other at all.

I do still miss his friendship of 10 years before it turned into a (mostly) LD EA.

I really do not miss feeling clingy and needy and nervous and guilty all the time.  Blech, soooo not me.

No contact really does work.  I expect a year from now to be even better.  Most of this residual sadness may be gone.  I will continue to regain my dignity and self-respect.  I will continue to build the friendships I have gained here.  I will know, even more so, how strong I can be.

Thanks to all of you.  Newbies, your contribution is important.  You help others at the same stage and you also help us further along remember why we never want to go back, and aid our continuing healing by reaching out to you.  The vets who were here when I started, Dee and Luvin, our sweet wise Iddy, JustKim from AYA I will never forget.

Katniss, who was 5 months out when I joined and Hearts who was the very first person to reply to me, helped me enormously, being a few months ahead of me.  Rather has helped me more than he will ever know.

And my peeps! Yellow, Luluellis, RTMO, Progression and MissLulu and my dear, dear friend Goodheart who all started around the same time as me.  And Happy, I cannot forget Happy!  There is a special place in my heart for these women, and all of you a little ways behind me, Birdsong and WGO, JWIAM, Daisy.

I have a tendency to sound like I am accepting an Academy Award at times like this.  And I kind of am, I guess, since I did a lot of "fake it" til you make it! Wink

So, I'll shut up now and say I love you too Clarity.  Thank you my friend and mentor. Kiss


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Registered: 11-26-2009
Tue, 01-01-2013 - 6:23am

Dearest Rain

You made it!!!! I am so happy for you - your strength has been amazing! I have followed in your footsteps since I started and can't tell you how much it pleases me that you made it to vet status. Looking forward to joining you soon :-)

Much love


Every recovery is a kind of rebirth
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Registered: 03-08-2011
Mon, 12-31-2012 - 11:50am

This is so exciting for all of us! Rainie, you have been an inspiration from the beginning for me, a few months behind ya. Enjoy the achievement and we all know the many minutes, hours and days that had to be got through before they could add up to a whole year. It really can and does happen! Congrats and hugs ~


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Registered: 04-24-2011
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 4:09pm
Rainie!!!!! I am so proud of you!!!!!!! Congratulations on this much deserved milestone! (((((hugs)))))) progression
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Registered: 05-16-2011
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 3:06pm

Rainie, this is so wonderful. I was determined to get on here to congratulate you. I know it has been such a long journey out for you and you have worked hard to get to this place. Keep looking forward hun, it gets easier.


The core of who you are is not always obvious to everyone. But to believe what others may believe of you can cause you to deny yourself, the wonders, of who you really are.
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Registered: 05-08-2012
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 2:33pm
Congratulations Raine! I hope you are really proud of this awesome achievement. Your determination and resolve has been a wonderful inspiration to us all. Boards permitting I hope you continue to be for a long time to come! Enjoy this special day.... Much Love Sunny Soon Xxx
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Registered: 04-23-2010
Sun, 12-30-2012 - 2:01pm

Welcome to Vetville. It's been a long journey, but I am glad you made it.

<pat on back>

<thumbs up>


We only miss what could have been. I know I don't miss what it really was.