concrete ideas/things to do to move on

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Registered: 04-15-2004
concrete ideas/things to do to move on
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Sat, 02-12-2005 - 11:38am

What can I do to move on? In my heart, I think I honestly know he is not coming back to me, but I am having trouble accepting this and moving on. It has been 3 weeks of NC so far. I still hold on to that hope that he will leave his W and we'll be together. What concrete things can I do to just MOVE ON? I have been going to the gym to work out, and that helps. What else do you all do to get over those "moments"? Please, I need suggestions! Depression is setting in.

Birdie

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Sat, 02-12-2005 - 6:38pm

Birdie

The hardest but the most helpful thing you can do for yourself is ACCEPTANCE, accept that it is over and that he will not like the large majority of married men that cheat NEVER leave his wife dispite what ever conditions there are in the marriage(these conditions often get blown out of proportion during the affair and when faced with leaving the reality of that fact can kick in).

For yourself keep busy, if you ever wanted to take collage courses nights or days take them now, start rebuilding friendships that may have suffered during the affair, if your single put yourself in the right places to meet single men just for there company if you don't want anything else from them right now.

Start to live your real life again...you may find you like it.

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