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| Mon, 10-04-2004 - 11:20pm |
I need input. Can a man sneak-out in the wee hours of the morning or in the middle of the night and not have his wife know about it? That was my MM modus of operandi. Everytime I got close to pressuring him into some kind of decision/committment, his wife would show-up around me. He was my therapist. He kept laying all the blame on my mental health. If I was healthier, he would be with me, yada, yada, yada. I think back and wonder how I could be so stupid. I know that he would risk losing his license if he had married me, but other psychologists have left wives, etc, and married their patients. So I thought he might be one of them. However, now I wonder if he was just playing me all along. I need to get completely over this. The whole situation makes me completely sick also because at first I knew he was just exploiting me. I don't know about anyone here, but sex means something to me, I bond with the person even when I don't particularly like them initially. That's what happened in this situation. When it first started, I would look at his beautiful receptionist and think, 'Who cares that he's with her, too?' I simply needed a good recommendation from him with the state. Of course, I really didn't because two social workers had already testified in court I wasn't dangerous to my children. However, when he pressured me, I succumbed. Anyway, my point to all this is, I knew what I was doing, then I let myself be played I think. Does anyone have any perspectives on this? I know I didn't provide much detail. Suffice it to say that he kept me depressed and discouraged enough that I clung to him, but not so much that I'd kick him out. Thanks in advance.

Please don't take offense, but how can you possibly NOT know that this is a complete professional and ethical violation? Therapists are definitely not supposed to become involved with their patients! No offense, but the fact that you don't seem to know this leads me to believe that perhaps you need to continue therapy, but obviously with someone else. Don't get me wrong. I'm not saying that you're some whacko. I just think that you may have some more issues to work on. No, I'll be honest, you DO have more issues to work on than you did when you walked in that door. This man exploited, manipulated and used you, and he was supposed to be helping you! He's nothing but a pathetic little scumbag, and if I were you, I'd not only report him, I'd sue him.
Good luck.
Sillyme is right -- you need to find another counselor and immediately stop contact with this person. And it wouldn't hurt to contact an attorney; not only for your protection but for the protection of his other patients, current and future.
What he has done to you is sick, twisted and immoral, over and above the rest of the OMs -- he was in a position of trust and he violated it BIG TIME.
Godd luck, stay strong...