Confused and Bewildered

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Confused and Bewildered
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Mon, 03-31-2003 - 11:20am
About 10 days ago my MM and I decieded to end our A. My DH had found out about MM about 2 yrs ago while we were seperated, and I had promised never to see him again. ( I broke the promise a few times) Well, we decided to end the A, I was too afraid of getting caught and knew that the time spent with MM was not worth what I might lose. However, we did continue to e-mail each other. Most of it was quite innocent, but one line was that he still missed me and stillloved and desired me. I received a phone call this am at work. It seems that his wife found all our e-mails from the past 3 weeks. These detailed most of our relationship, how we loved each other and how it must end etc., etc. I have no idea how she found them, except he must have been super careless. Especially considering that's how my DH found out, I was careless and I warned MM of the pitfalls of e-mail.

Unfortunately, mostly we used my work email which shows my first and last name, and company. So I am sure I will be hearing from a very irate woman in the next few days, or hours.

I'm still bewildered on how he could be so careless,unless he wanted to be caught, to clear his own consiceince or to be sure that we did end it and that there would be no going back.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-31-2003 - 4:43pm
Maybe he wanted caught and you were the fall gal to take the brunt of it.

Maybe he didnt want to get caught..and just did9 she is his wife and is going to NOT appreciate this at all)..I think I may have mentioned awhile back..so some woemn can wise up..the wives arent always predictable with this stuff..they will fight for their marriage..and as they are the wife? Its expected.

She may not just call..she may DROP BY..that is a possibility.Does it scare ya? I hope so..so it may give some impetus for this to stop after promising DH.

See..the affairs dont stop the way YOU like or HE likes many times..they stop because of OTHER circumstances and thats where the all bets are off in stuff.

Did he want cuaght? who cares..he is capable of cheating and sending emails with lines like that in it in SECRECY anyhow....what counts is that you better hope she doesnt call YOUR husband hon.

THATS where you better do damage control.