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| Thu, 05-19-2005 - 10:38am |
Hi all,
I could write a long post but basically, after a few weeks of contact (MM's request) he has contacted me again and said he is sorry how he handled things. He said he wants to work on us and is definitely getting divorced in 2 weeks and wants to be with me as jsut friends in the interim rather than no contact. I'm okay with seeing him at the gym and email/phone but can't trust myself (being honest) to be hanging out with him as just friends. I am not willing to have a relationship with a married guy anymore. Its just a no brainer and I'm not sure how I talked myself into it for so long. He knows that I have dated and is not sure what I am doing (actually nothing but he doesnt need to know that) and hopes we can be together after his life is in order. I cant tell anyone this because my friends all hate him now. WHat do you think? Is this just another ploy to worm back in my life?
Ivy

Ivy--
Ask MM to show your proof that he is divorced before you make peace with him again. I sure think its a ploy to worm you back into his life. He knows it works well with you and you will let him. So don't let him. Be strong. You deserve an honest and loving man -- show him you will not compromise for anything less.
Ivy,
I second that motion!
tinygrrl
IVY
NO CONTACT until he can put a divorce decree signed by him, her and the JUDGE.
IF IT IS ONLY GOING TO BE A COUPLE OF WEEKS HE CAN WAIT, but if it's more B/S he will try not to agree.
Keep dating don't put your life on hold again.
Free
ivy,
its another ploy, if he wanted to ge divorced he would have done it along time ago
pls , dont let yourself be fooled again and lied again
max
Thanks everyone,
His court date is (supposedly) 2 weeks from today. I already have plans this weekend and Memorial Day weekend with friends so I am busy. It'd be nice if he was actually serious this time about us but yea, I know, historically his track record is bad. I don't have any more dates lined up yet - I had a few but don't feel the connection and dont want to rush into the wrong thing. Someone new just winked me so the hunt continues...
I just had to tell someone and I can't mention his name to my friends anymore.
I did tell him I want to see the divorce certificate, assuming it happens. Even if it does, he seems to have a self defeatest attitude about us that we will never work, that I could do better. I've put down my sword at trying to convince people things.