:) thanks gal! I appreciate your support. I am glad to be leading such strong women as yourself...i surely learned from the best! :)
I will be sure to keep moving forward...cause there is no way in hell I am every going back to that! As much as I thought losing my XAP hurt...it does not even come close to the pain of losing myself! Never again will I be that low in my life... NEVER AGAIN!
I am happy for you and your progress too my friend. You have persevered through some tough waters. We love your posts and I always love it when you have the time to come here and contribute. Thank you so much for taking the time to celebrate with me today.
I did have a great day...and I hope you are having a pretty darn good one yourself.
You are so special to all of us on this board! And not because you are ALL man, but because you have this special heart. you have touched us all with you honesty and you were so open and I have marveled at your posts and I can not tell you how much this accomplishment...I mean your accomplishment
You have been such a tremendous source of support to me so many times, either directly or indirectly - Your MALE perspective while balancing out all the rest of the estrogen and what not! my gosh, I think you "should have" received a damn car or something!!! :)
NOTHING BUT LOVE, LIGHT AND PHENOMENAL HEALTH!!! for you buddy!
Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
Congratulations to you Foggy. Your genuine concern for others on this board is moving to my soul. You give a sense of peace and calm when others are hurting and I have personally benefitted from your gentle words. Thank you and congatulations!
((((CSN)))) Hello my dear friend! Of all the things I missed while traveling over the holidays and have not had time to go back to...the hardest was missing your Vetting celebration! So before I address your wonderfully kind words to me here, I want to wish you a long overdue CONGRATULATIONS!!! I know it was a very hard road for you to end your A, and like me were another lost soul who was willing to give up everything for the fantasy life we were promised. All I can say is no matter what life has in store for us in the future, I am so glad that we did not end up there! You have been such a great gift to this board, and continue to come back here and give so much, even when things are so painful in your own life. For that I am proud to know you, and so very proud of your accomplishments!!
Now as for my arrival in Supertweenerville....thanks for celebrating with me!! I still remember your words to me when I arrived here....one of the first voices of reason and calm to greet me with my gushing wounds and broken spirit. You helped me so much then, and with every one of your posts ever since. One of the first people who I really "related" to through your writing, and going back to read your story was so uplifting to see how far you had come. I have to thank you for all of your help in getting here. For me to have been able to help you get over some "speed bumps" is an honor. Sadly I know that we are in the similar situation with the loss of our spouse after D-day, and know my friend that you have been heavy on my mind since your D-day. I often find myself as I sit alone in my house how you are doing and coping with the change. I know this may not be the right venue for letting me know, but if you ever need anything, please do not hesitate to ask.
Thanks again for my congrats...and as for being the first dude to cross that threshold....as Bodhi said to me today... "Its one small step for man....but one giant leap for Jam Kind" LOL.
So much love to you my sister....thanks for all the support! peace&light and a sweet ol HIGH FIVE while we are at it! Foggy
Hey Garfy!!!! You will be here in no time....that I am 100% sure of. You have come so far from that hurting, brokedown, NC breaking woman you were when you arrived. You have taken amazing strides in healing, and there is no one else I could think of better to celebrate with today!
You are right my friend....these last 6 months have been a very difficult struggle on so many fronts....and it is only through help and support from friends like you that made that struggle worth continuing to fight. So thanks, from my heart, THANK YOU!
And Garfy...we all deserve more...and that is precisely why we are here to help each other through it.
Peace & light and a huge raise of the glass to OUR successes! Foggy
Thank you Awakening! I am glad that my posts somehow can speak to you...I am glad they can speak to anybody. I so often feel they are long and meandering rants of a crazy person (which they are) that make no sense at all, even when I re-read them! :)
I am happy when I can offer a different perspective to a fellow ender, because I honestly believe that is one of the things that helped me so much, especially early on in my ending. I was able to "see" this ending from my xAP's perspective through the posts and feelings of many of the enders here. Whether it be about the grieving because of the realization of how the A took away attention from the kids....to Dee's post about throwing up after a meeting and wondering if my XAP held onto that much guilt as well.
And thank you so much for your prayers! I am slowly making my way back to full health, and can not wait for the day to tell you all I am done with treatments and fully C free! :)
Thanks for the support, and keep up the good work my friend. We love it when you post in around here.
Hey MC, Thanks for celebrating with me! I am happy that my words have moved you in anyway. I give my hats off to you and what you have accomplished. I remember when you arrived and the pain of your story was almost to much for me to bear. But look at you now! You have come so very far....and if through my words I have contributed even a little to that....well then I know that every ounce of my effort I have given back to this place has been worth it!
Yes, I am sure your xAP is suffering too, it is not easy to walk away....especailly with how much you two shared. But as long as you KNOW that it was for the best, then you will be Ok. I tell you though MC, I spent so long wondering how it was that I am sitting here suffering so bad and thought she was just moving on so easily. And in the long run it took the words of a wise friend for me to realize that A) I have no idea how easy it has been and B) that if she was not doing OK then that meant she is suffering as bad as me....and I did not want ANYONE to suffer that bad, not me, not her...and not YOU!
Thanks for your well wishes. I look forward to welcoming you here soon. You keep up the good work, you are doing so great.
Well actually WCF...my PhD is associated with sh*t...total BULL SH*T! LOL
Thanks my friend....you to are an inspiration. But I will save all my things I have to say about you for your party in a two weeks!! I can not wait to welcome you!
Thanks for stopping by to celebrate with me....now don't be such a stranger (say the dude who is notorious for going on long hiatuses) :)
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I will be sure to keep moving forward...cause there is no way in hell I am every going back to that! As much as I thought losing my XAP hurt...it does not even come close to the pain of losing myself! Never again will I be that low in my life... NEVER AGAIN!
I am happy for you and your progress too my friend. You have persevered through some tough waters. We love your posts and I always love it when you have the time to come here and contribute. Thank you so much for taking the time to celebrate with me today.
I did have a great day...and I hope you are having a pretty darn good one yourself.
peace&light
foggy
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
Congrats, Foggy!
SUPER TWEENER?!?!?!? WOW!!!!
Congrats!!!!
You have been such a tremendous source of support to me so many times, either directly or indirectly - Your MALE perspective while balancing out all the rest of the estrogen and what not! my gosh, I think you "should have" received a damn car or something!!! :)
NOTHING BUT LOVE, LIGHT AND PHENOMENAL HEALTH!!! for you buddy!
xo,
Michelle
Hello my dear friend! Of all the things I missed while traveling over the holidays and have not had time to go back to...the hardest was missing your Vetting celebration! So before I address your wonderfully kind words to me here, I want to wish you a long overdue CONGRATULATIONS!!! I know it was a very hard road for you to end your A, and like me were another lost soul who was willing to give up everything for the fantasy life we were promised. All I can say is no matter what life has in store for us in the future, I am so glad that we did not end up there! You have been such a great gift to this board, and continue to come back here and give so much, even when things are so painful in your own life. For that I am proud to know you, and so very proud of your accomplishments!!
Now as for my arrival in Supertweenerville....thanks for celebrating with me!! I still remember your words to me when I arrived here....one of the first voices of reason and calm to greet me with my gushing wounds and broken spirit. You helped me so much then, and with every one of your posts ever since. One of the first people who I really "related" to through your writing, and going back to read your story was so uplifting to see how far you had come. I have to thank you for all of your help in getting here. For me to have been able to help you get over some "speed bumps" is an honor. Sadly I know that we are in the similar situation with the loss of our spouse after D-day, and know my friend that you have been heavy on my mind since your D-day. I often find myself as I sit alone in my house how you are doing and coping with the change. I know this may not be the right venue for letting me know, but if you ever need anything, please do not hesitate to ask.
Thanks again for my congrats...and as for being the first dude to cross that threshold....as Bodhi said to me today... "Its one small step for man....but one giant leap for Jam Kind" LOL.
So much love to you my sister....thanks for all the support!
peace&light and a sweet ol HIGH FIVE while we are at it!
Foggy
You are right my friend....these last 6 months have been a very difficult struggle on so many fronts....and it is only through help and support from friends like you that made that struggle worth continuing to fight. So thanks, from my heart, THANK YOU!
And Garfy...we all deserve more...and that is precisely why we are here to help each other through it.
Peace & light and a huge raise of the glass to OUR successes!
Foggy
I am glad that my posts somehow can speak to you...I am glad they can speak to anybody. I so often feel they are long and meandering rants of a crazy person (which they are) that make no sense at all, even when I re-read them! :)
I am happy when I can offer a different perspective to a fellow ender, because I honestly believe that is one of the things that helped me so much, especially early on in my ending. I was able to "see" this ending from my xAP's perspective through the posts and feelings of many of the enders here. Whether it be about the grieving because of the realization of how the A took away attention from the kids....to Dee's post about throwing up after a meeting and wondering if my XAP held onto that much guilt as well.
And thank you so much for your prayers! I am slowly making my way back to full health, and can not wait for the day to tell you all I am done with treatments and fully C free! :)
Thanks for the support, and keep up the good work my friend. We love it when you post in around here.
peace&light
Foggy
Thanks for celebrating with me! I am happy that my words have moved you in anyway. I give my hats off to you and what you have accomplished. I remember when you arrived and the pain of your story was almost to much for me to bear. But look at you now! You have come so very far....and if through my words I have contributed even a little to that....well then I know that every ounce of my effort I have given back to this place has been worth it!
Yes, I am sure your xAP is suffering too, it is not easy to walk away....especailly with how much you two shared. But as long as you KNOW that it was for the best, then you will be Ok. I tell you though MC, I spent so long wondering how it was that I am sitting here suffering so bad and thought she was just moving on so easily. And in the long run it took the words of a wise friend for me to realize that A) I have no idea how easy it has been and B) that if she was not doing OK then that meant she is suffering as bad as me....and I did not want ANYONE to suffer that bad, not me, not her...and not YOU!
Thanks for your well wishes. I look forward to welcoming you here soon. You keep up the good work, you are doing so great.
Peace&light
Foggy
Thanks my friend....you to are an inspiration. But I will save all my things I have to say about you for your party in a two weeks!! I can not wait to welcome you!
Thanks for stopping by to celebrate with me....now don't be such a stranger (say the dude who is notorious for going on long hiatuses) :)
Peace & light to you my friend
Foggy!
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