Coping with my anger today

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Registered: 06-08-2010
Coping with my anger today
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Fri, 11-05-2010 - 4:15pm
And trying not to direct it at anyone in particular...I had my therapy session this afternoon. There is a TON of work to be done with me. There are so many "uglies" underneath the surface of an "I've got it pretty much together" kind of person such as myself. I am scared sh*tless...but willing to do the work that lies ahead. H is distracted - or should I say CONSUMED with very bad things going on in our church right now. It is to the point where sex is just a release for him - stress reliever and not much consideration on pleasing me, the wife. But, it has been that way for awhile now. I hate the fact that church is in our bedroom...in our bed. He can't let go and concentrate on me for even 10 minutes. He isn't a touchy-feely sort of guy, that I have known for years. Anyway, I guess I am having a bit of a pity-party since today is my birthday and I didn't even get a "happy birthday, sweetheart" or even a card from H. Ugh. Oh, well. Tomorrow is a new day. Thanks for letting me vent here. Hearts<3
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Registered: 06-17-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 4:36pm

Happy Birthday Hearts :)

It's all about balance, at it doesn't sound like you have that right now. Talk to your H about your feelings - don't keep them bottled up. Thinking of you -

Bodhi

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Registered: 10-17-2007
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 4:50pm
!!!!!!!Happy birthday sweetheart!!!!!!!

Not the same I know. Remember when they forgot Sam's birthday in Sixteen Candles? Random.

Sweetie, sit the hubs down and really talk to him. Men can be so clueless. It's time to shake things up with that relationship. Sounds like he needs a wake up call and you need to stand up for yourself strong lady!

Do it! Do it! It's all about you today!
XO

Chechi!
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Registered: 04-01-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 4:56pm

Wishing you a very happy birthday,

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 6:11pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, HONEY.

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 6:18pm
I will definitely NOT keep this bottled up. I'm going to ask him tonight to go for a walk with me (even though it is pretty cold out there) and I will recap what I have been feeling and let him know (in that non-confrontational way) that I need him to know how we can work together to build a better sex life...one that is not just one-sided. We are going away next week for a few days, just the two of us. I am looking forward to that and will stay optimistic. Thanks everyone for your support and thoughts...and for the happy birthday wishes!!! :)

Hearts<3
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Registered: 04-20-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 6:46pm

Happy Birthday, Dearest.

Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 7:25pm
Thank you for the beautiful cake, Iddy!!! I LOVE it...purple is my favorite color! And this is the best kind of cake that will not put an inch on my waistline!! I can just taste that buttercream frosting...YUM!! :)
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 9:11pm

Happy Birthday Hearts!

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Registered: 03-29-2009
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:25pm

happy birthday, sweetheart.

hugs to you

lillie

silence is eloquent, silence is dignified, silence is heard. ...
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Registered: 09-28-2010
Fri, 11-05-2010 - 10:38pm
Late to the party; hope you've still got some of that amazing looking cake left! You're doing Amazing ... regardless of how disappointing your birthday may be this year, at least you are in your PRESENT life, and not escaping and missing it all. Once you are really present - you can start to have those conversations that help to make your RL the place you run towards, instead of away from.

Much Love,

TU.