Counselling postponed....:(

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Registered: 04-11-2010
Counselling postponed....:(
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Tue, 03-01-2011 - 6:04am

Bugger

Just when I was getting all psyched! I was nervous about going to T for the first time today, but she had to postpone to next week. I was pretty bummed but totally understand that she had to postpone.

BUT on the upside, I have taken up exercise a bit more seriously and I am feeling a lot better this week.

Im still thinking about exAP way too much, but for every 'him' thought I seriously challenge my thinking and reframe it totally...

'I wonder if he misses me at all'... into ....'why do I need him to miss me? Am I feeling not important enough to the people who truly do love/miss me? Why do I need to have a man I dont even know miss me?'

'I wonder what he's doing'... into......'Doesnt matter what he's doing- he has his life which is full and happy for him- and thats great. I have MY life and I need to focus on my children/work/friends right now'

'Why the hell did it all have to end'...... into......'of course it had to bloody end! It was ending about a mth after it started! He is getting his ego stroke elsewhere and that suits me- I only have enough energy for me and mine!!!'

So Ill stay focused and look forward to T next week!!!

Iggyxxx

You are what you consistently do
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 6:54am
Good for you, sweetie, in turning those junky mind thoughts around. Sometimes our egos get the best of us..well actually, in an A they run the show. ;-) It takes time to reconfigure our thoughts after wasting so much valuable energy in distorting them, KWIM?

Sorry about the postponement, but yay you on the exercising. It kicks those endorphins into gear and produces a feeling of well-being. But you knew that already, right? ;-)

(((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 9:24pm

OH YEAH!!!!!

GREAT GREAT GREAT Reframing job!!!!! Using thoughts of him to redirect it back to yourself is SOOO CATHARTIC and HEALTHY!!!

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 04-11-2010
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 2:42am
Michelle, I'm secretly in love with you!!!!
:)))))
You are what you consistently do