Couple of observations
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| Wed, 02-04-2004 - 3:59pm |
After swimming I called into see my mum (let's see if I can explain this)my neice who is 9 just nine months younger than me, was there with her grandson. Her son has three children with his girlfriend who he has recently left and gone off with a younger girl. My neices son had taken the older boy out for tea and arrived at my mothers house to drop him off, the smaller boy on seeing his dad ran to the door shouting, daddy,daddy and was really excited, they don't see much of him. Their dad works shifts and was on his way to work and told the little one that, the little lad who is only 4 was beside himself when he left, crying I want my daddy, it was heartbreaking to watch. We tried all we could to take his mind off of it but he kept sobbing. It brought home to me how selfish it would have been to expect my xmm to leave his two boys who are 10 & 7. My xmm walked out once and came to me but I made him go home the next day to talk things through and he decided he had to go home as his boys were crying and asking 'when are you coming home daddy', I know we carried on the affair after, our feelings were to strong but this final time when it all came to a head again and he was going to leave his wife got the boys out of bed and told them he was leaving and they got so upset he said he couldn't do it. Seeing that little lad tonight made me realise I had no right to ask him to leave those children it is true what he said, they need him and I am glad I told him I understood and I think more of him as a man that he cared enough to stay and be with them, it hurts to loose him but my life won't be scared by not having him, his sons will. My husband walked away from our three children as if they didn't exsist so I know what I'm talking about.
Just thought I'd share, feeling bit thoughtful today, get strange days like this, do you think it's my age!
Edited 2/4/2004 4:05:57 PM ET by natty536

It reminds me of something I think of often...the movie Prince of Tides with Nick Nolte and Barbara Streisand. He chooses his wife over Streisand's character and she is devastated. He reassures her that he doesn't love his wife "more" just "longer"...and all that that implies.
Suprisingly, one of the qualities that attracted me most to my MM was the fact that he is a great father and a committed husband. It was also what led me to finally end it.
Thanks : )