Court date - you won't BELIEVE this one
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| Fri, 06-03-2005 - 12:05pm |
Ok. I am not sure if anyone follows my story but basically I ended it with MM on May 1st but since his court date (2nd one) was scheduled for June 3rd, I kept a little hope open. Now the first court date was for March 11th but some stuff he didnt know about came up and they had to reschedule it. He was really good with his story in March - seriously - and he told me it was rescheduled for June 3rd. Then last weekend he started feeling sick. I don't see him much anymore unless he goes to the gym so I cannot prove or disprove his story. I did see him Saturday and he didnt look well. He told me that he went to the doctor on Monday and that he had walking pneumonia and got drugs to feel better. Then he said on Wednesday that he wasn't feeling better - actually was worse - and had to go see the doctor again that night. That was the last I heard of him. Since we are not together, this isnt that unusual. Today he sent me several text messages that he was in the hospital getting tests and that he almost died! I mean - what are the odds that he almost died on the same day as his rescheduled divorced court date? Naturally, the divorce has to be rescheduled.
Does he think I am a fool? What possesses someone to go to these extrememes to lie like this? He has set it up so well that I actually am not sure if he is sick or not. I actually believe he got sick from the stress because June 3rd was approaching and he was going to get busted by me or divorced by his wife. I actually don't know the truth. I do not that he's lying somewhere in there. If only he could apply these skills to his job or relationships.
Amazing.
Ivy

wow that's crazy Ivy!
Ya know what next time he tries to contact you or whatever - I'd be like "dude, I don't want to be with you anymore so you can stop the divorce proceedings - ya don't have to go putting yourself in the hospital to avoid divorce." or something like that!
What a d**k!!!! I'm sorry girl - I really wish for you to move past even caring! That would sure make things easier - and yet... I know how hard that is! :(
Ivy,
If it were me, I would call the local hospitals asking for his room.
Quite possibly he is a sociopath. Many MM's fall into this category and spin a web of lies without ever considering the consequences. It doesn't even concern them. If they get caughts, they spin up more contrived tales of woe without batting an eyelash. You need to run from this lunatic and get as far away from him as you possibly can.
Google sociopath and decide for yourself.
Good luck,
Subade
Edited 6/3/2005 1:32 pm ET ET by subade1949
**Terri**
Hi Bunny,
Yea. Well, he's in a neighboring state so I am not familiar with the hospitals and since he is just there for tests, I wouldn't find a record anyway. Truth is, I have no more energy left to try and find out the truth about what is really going on. He is a master liar and I am an amauteur and he covers his tracks extremely well. I would just be wasting more time.
I am just shocked that someone I could be this close to could go to such lengths to lie to me. For what purpose? To gain more time I guess. In a detached way, I can imagine the stress he must have been going through as June 3rd approached and he knew he had to get out of this one. I wouldn't be surprised if a part of him actually beleived him own lie and that is why he was so convincing to me. I just don't get what the purpose of lying about getting divorced is.
Anyway, I am definitely out of this. I just have to figure out the best way to do it. Someone who would go to such lengths to lie like this will probably not go quietly into the night. It has to be handled carefully.
Ivy
At this point, the story has some entertainment value. I'd follow it up to see whether its at all true, any little piece of it. Cause otherwise, it's crazy to make up something so preposterous.
I can't imagine that finding out he made this story up won't help you move forward. But then again, my exMM calls me for advice in his love life and I can still get caught up in his insanity, so who knows...
keep us posted if you find out anything! Love, Mo.
I know most people would have trouble just walking away and would try to find out the truth but its hard to explain, but he closes any loopholes so I know I wouldn't find out the truth. I'd just be driving myself nuts.
It does actually give me closure in an odd way. It shows me that all his plans for the future for us are nothing but fiction. It shows me that there is something seriously wrong with him. It shows me that its okay for me to just walk away becasue I'm not really walking away from anything. I actually the winner here. I got out before it was too late. It is very disturbing that someone would lie like that.
Ivy
There comes a time when you stop caring. It finally is the last straw and it becomes clear that you are wasting your time. It seems that you are there. You don't really have the desire to know because you have accepted that it just dosen't matter.
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Once you realize that, you can finally let go. Do you feel a little sad, but mostly relieved? That is how I have been feeling and also regret at the time I wasted, and anger at putting this jerk above everything else in my life. What an idiot I have been. I am also determined to make it up to the people that I have hurt. I used to think that I always wanted to have xmm in my life, be friends. Our relationship was so special, I couldn't let it go. Now I don't want anything to do with him anymore. There is nothing he could say or do that would change the truth.
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You will get past this and make a better life for yourself....
Yes. I feel like an idiot. I wasted 2 years that I can't get back on him and I also spent a lot of money! Thousands. I supported our entertainment and I bought him alot of stuff - shirts for work, cufflinks, sunglasses, etc.
I do feel sad. It's like WTF?!?! How could you treat another person like that? And I will never get a straight answer.