Crap kinda day....

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Registered: 01-10-2010
Crap kinda day....
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Mon, 02-01-2010 - 10:34pm

I've had a crappy day.

Imustenjoypain!
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 12:51am

Hey IMJP


I swear the realization that we have no one to blame but ourselves is the worse part.


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Registered: 08-18-2008
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 1:23am

Hi IMEP,


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Whether you think you can or you think you can't you are probably right. A parrot can repeat what it has learned but the mark of true intelligence is applying what is learned.

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 7:41am

IMJP-
Boy, this is major step for you! and you're only on Day 6? Congratulations (?) I know I felt exactly as you did, Crappy, at day 6 --- um, until day like 50 -ha! But, I also realized that X and I used each other and he was no more to blame than I. That really helped in the long run, though, because not only was I able to forgive him, I was able to let 'it' go. The closure part and the confusion part that had to do with answers I thought I needed from HIM, because I then knew that I was the one who had the answers and that his answers didn't matter. The matter rests with you. It very empowering to forgive and I hope you'll be doing that for yourself soon.

Love and support,
Dee

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Tue, 02-02-2010 - 8:16am

Good - morning.

You are doing so incredibly well - day 6 wow! I remember the moments i got those insights into myself - and it made me feel excited. When I realized the issues were with me, then I could have control back of my life. I can work on me and only me ... so when the issues rest with me, then I know it can get better. I never held my xAP responsible for more that what was his to own - and I own what is mine. We demand of our AP's to become cheaters and deceivers or else we can't spend time with them the way we do/did. We can't really then turn around and be angry for the very things we demanded of them.

So, all this to say, it is a huge revelation to make and one like the others have said, will help clear the road to a better life.

Hugs,

J.