Crossroads of sorts....

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Registered: 02-07-2012
Crossroads of sorts....
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Thu, 04-19-2012 - 8:48am

So I have been having a really lousy couple of weeks and as I sobbed the other night on my way home from work and my H was being less then sensitive my

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Registered: 04-20-2009
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 9:03am

Wow! That is really great and I'm so happy for you --- you know, happy that X didn't cross your mind, not at all happy, though, that you were sobbing.

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Registered: 04-24-2011
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 9:31am
What an excellent post! When we arrive to the place and recognition of indifference from the addictive behaviors/thoughts of the xap it is a healthy sign of true healing. Congratulations! I think you deserve a little "Feather" ceremony for achieving this phase. (maybe I can sneak a feather off one of those wings that I know you will be receiving and give it to you now) :)

I agree with Deeulta when she said "We can't rely, nor would we, on H to be the perfect everything all the time -"

She mentioned something to this effect on Feb. 13th (?) This was a significant turning point for me. I became very cognizant of the internal flawed belief system I had of relying on someone/something else to make me feel better. Brava Dee!!!

"Thanks for listening"..........Thank YOU for sharing!

((((hugs)))))

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Registered: 02-07-2012
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 9:41am

Thanks Dee!!

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Registered: 02-07-2012
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 9:46am

I would love a feather!!

Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 11:57am
Feather ceremony should ensue...you deserve this!! Forgiven, (btw, I love your name) this was an amazing post. So much growth has taken place here! It does suck to have those sobbing moments, but at least you are able to get that out and push forward...you are getting close to those wings! :) :)
(does someone want to start the feather ceremony or should I try and pull a few off for her?)
(((((HUGS)))))
Hearts <3
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Registered: 03-17-2006
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:04pm
(((Forgiven)))

I'm so happy for you!! I know how hard you were struggling early on. You have made wonderful progress. Keep it up!
You go girl!!!

((hugs))

~~Noway~~
The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.
Community Leader
Registered: 06-08-2010
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:18pm
See if this works...I'm using my iphone and have techie issues sometimes. :) if it doesn't work, I'll try it again from my laptop.

Colorful feathers for Forgiven!!

http://www.google.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSiwTmRZrStiLk64TD8a4YObAw_aszyc4-r17uHXkNWkbgaV2ey
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Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:21pm

It is true, that we cannot rely solely upon our husbands or one person to satisfy our every want and need.


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Registered: 02-07-2012
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:28pm

It worked Thank you Hearts!!!!

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Registered: 02-07-2012
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:31pm

As always Clarity thank you for your insight!!

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