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| Sun, 08-08-2010 - 6:43pm |
I am just wondering how many other married women with single AP are out there? Do we let ourselves get more attached because they do not have a wife at home? Just curious....

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Hi May,
I was married with a single AP... and yes I think so. I know I did.... he was single and therefore NEEDED looking after!!! He needed me, ha.
sunbeam
Hi Mayday -
No doubt affairs are hard either way, but when on party is single and the other is married, there is definitely more of a "lopsided" dynamic. In my case, I'm single, XAP is married.
<<< I wonder if they get equally attached because someone is meeting their needs?>>>
It might be different for a man, but as a single woman, he never came close to meeting my needs. There would be glimmers of him "taking care of me". Even though you might have felt that you were taking care of your XAP and meeting his needs, you really weren't. None of us can, because the R wasn't real.
When you are the single one, XAP has the benefit of you being available all the time. There were countless times I needed my XAP and he wasn't there.
Bodhi
You are in a much better place now :) It sounds like you have a pretty special husband. Keep up the NC. If JAM wants someone to clean his house or have sex with him, he can find the "appropriate" people and pay them!
Bodhi
Hi Mayday,
Although I'm not able to marry, I've been in a registered domestic partnership with my SO for ten years and my xAP is single. xAP is an unrequited high school crush and I was foolish enough to try to start something with him on two different occasions. The first time I left my current bf in order to be with xAP, who disappeared a short time later.
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