D-day is a cold shower

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Registered: 05-06-2010
D-day is a cold shower
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Thu, 12-23-2010 - 8:43am

Well, it happened to me.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 5:50pm
Thank you vanessa. My prayer is that if even just one person can learn from my experience how JAM is JUST NOT WORTH the consequences!!! It will in some way be worth it. JAM is JAM...Does anyone get this?? JUST. A. MAN!! JUST ANOTHER MAN!!!! He's NOT a god! NOT some superhero...he's a LIAR, A CHEATER, A THEIF of your M!!!!!!!!! HE IS NOT WORTH IT!!!! Your JAM, anyone else's JAM is the SAME as MY JAM!!!
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Registered: 11-16-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 5:52pm

FL,

Something is serious wrong with me because even now, after this horrid mess, my mind is already feeling restless and itchy for ....something...WHAT!!!??? I feel I am trying to self-destruct and I don't know why! I have a great life, beautiful children,

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Registered: 11-16-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 6:03pm
So so so so true FL, a JAM is just that!

Be assured that your post STRAIGHTENED me up out off the drug haze this morning. Hopefully all the people on this board who have had a Dday can offer you some guidance during this difficult time, you can't do it alone.

((((Hugs))))
V888
xxxxx
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Registered: 11-22-2009
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 6:08pm
I concur with Vanessa. It's time for IC (Individual counseling) and this should be something you do before you start MC, or start both together. Either way, your issues got you into this mess and although it is understandable that you are very angry at JAM right now, you will want to get to the root of why you gave yourself permission to go down this road. For now though, let the dust settle and put the finger pointing aside.

I am sorry this had to happen, especially just before the holidays.

(((Hugs))
Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 11-14-2008
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 9:08pm

I just read your post and thought wow for whatever reason it was suppose to happen and maybe if it happened 2 months ago the outcome would have been very different.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Thu, 12-23-2010 - 11:24pm

I am wishing you the best...I realize it is a really hard time for you. I can relate as I was M and had an A and then single/separated and then had one....I truly am very sorry. I will be thinking of you and praying for you and your family.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 02-25-2010
Wed, 01-05-2011 - 7:09pm

FL

My heart goes out to you, i wish i had seen your thread earler.. i can realte to EVERYTHING you have written.... i am 3 months on from H' Dday and things for us seem to be getting worse... H cannot move on from anger, revenge and sorrow.... he describes having had his post precious thing stolen from him,

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