D-DAY MAJOR DISASTER - DONE

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Registered: 07-28-2010
D-DAY MAJOR DISASTER - DONE
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Mon, 08-09-2010 - 2:25pm

I posted last week I was done with AP and now - FOR GOOD. I actually dont think this will be hard to quit now where as before, I really felt I cared for him.


Well, what's done is done and done forever! I have never had an A before this and had no idea what to expect but my phone started blowing up last night from A saying I ruined his life, calling me every curse word in the book, etc. Said he was caught. I guess W found some email he didnt delete, checked some phone record, etc.. He was not home. Then she starts calling my phone last night cursing at me, calling me a b&%# and what was up with her and her husband. OMG. So he calms down and I tell him 1) it takes 2 and this is not all my fault, he was online with an ad as well. 2) tell her to stop calling me or I will answer the phone and 3) I am changing my phone number and deleting my email and he will never hear from me again.


So a little time went on and then I started getting texts from him saying he was sorry to put me thru this, if thats what I really wanted was to never see him again then fine whatever, etc.. I told him straight up we need a cool off period if not forever then for a long, long time. He said to text him today on work phone and he would apologize again over the phone to me. Im a little shaken. Apparently, she also found a sexually explicit photo he took him of himself and sent to me saying "he missed me" so he is pretty much screwed. He doesnt know how she got my number and apparently she hacked into his email. I feel bad for him but this is not all my fault. So this morning so far I have 2 texts from her saying "bi^ch what the hell is up with you and my husband"


I told him last night I would not answer the phone nor respond to any texts or give out any information AT ALL. But OMG. Crap. Not sure what to think or do or say. Part of me wants to respond to her texts saying "I dont know your husband, I dont know you or what you are talking about" but for right now, I am remaining silent. I am blocking her number via my cell carrier or possible changing it all together.

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Registered: 06-17-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 3:37pm

Confused,

You said "what's done is done and done forever". But if you truly want to be done, you need to block HIS number and stop talking to him. You said you blocked his W's number, but why not his? Do you really want to get more tangled in this than you already are? Aren't you worried that your H is going to find out now too?

Everyone on EAS will help you get through this, but you have to end it. And that means no more texting, no more talking, no more listening, no more contact.

Bodhi

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 3:50pm

CK,


I have to agree with Bodhi.

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Registered: 07-29-2010
Mon, 08-09-2010 - 6:39pm
Yes, you need to be done and done for good.