Day # 1 OF NC - AGAIN

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Registered: 07-02-2004
Day # 1 OF NC - AGAIN
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Thu, 02-17-2005 - 12:54pm

this has been an ongoing phase for a better part of 2 yrs .
I still can NOT accept the rejectopn -

I texted him the day after my birthday I also called his cell .
Just curious to see if he would pick up after he saw my #

Yesterday- I texted him once again .
Saw him online and nothing .

The longest I have gone without contact was about 2 mths.

I have my cell on all the time ....thinking that everyday he will call .

I hope most of you are doing better than me .

NJ -FOOL

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Registered: 12-28-2004
Thu, 02-17-2005 - 2:19pm

Oh love, I know what your going through and it's hard, extremely hard to keep the NC going. But you have to try your hardest to keep busy. Easier said than done, I know. I still find it difficult but now I'm the one that wants NC and he doesn't, vicious cycle.

You are allowed to feel this way, but your also allowed to put a stop to these feelings when your ready. That being said, you can control how long you are in pain and how long you have expectations of hearing from him by replacing those thoughts with positive ones.

Everytime you miss him, think of why you don't.
Everytime your tempted to call him, call a friend.
Everytime you want to send an email, or see him online, switch over and research something interesting on the internet.
Everytime you hear a song, change the station.
Everytime you find yourself thinking of him, think of ways to make your life better.

Now like I said, it's easier said than done, but after you master your "thought" process it becomes easier and easier. Try it, it's tough at first but it will work if you stick to it.

Stay strong and take one day at a time, and it will get easier, if you allow it!!

Doves