Day 1 NC - really don't think I can

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Registered: 03-22-2014
Day 1 NC - really don't think I can
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Mon, 08-25-2014 - 4:23am

So today is day one of my NC challenge. But how do you do it? I honestly don't think I have the willpower. I know his number so deleting it won't help and even though I can block him from contacting me through social media I can't block myself from contacting him. I feel an absolute mess and only just made it into work this morning. The worst thing is it's not like breaking up with a boyfriend, there is no-one to cheer me up or share my pain. I have an appointment with my counsellor after work tomorrow but at the moment I'm feeling so alone and tomorrow seems like such a long time away. I just want to sleep to numb the pain and pass the time as quickly as possible, but I didn't sleep a wink last night :-(

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Registered: 11-29-2011
Mon, 08-25-2014 - 6:56am
What are your reasons for doing NC? It sounds like you're already talking yourself out of sticking with it. You ask how you do it, you block any Avenue he could possibly use to contact you, and you constantly remind yourself why you are doing this, which hopefully is to save yourself and your family from being discovered and tien apart, maybe because you're tired of being second best if that. Could you tell a little bit more about your situation so that we may help you through this?

Sometimes love just isn't enough.... NC since 7-30-14

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Mon, 08-25-2014 - 11:09am

Masa, the first few days are brutal as you realize 'this is it...no more feelgood drugs' and your body starts to withdraw. That's why it IS important to shut down all avenues of communication...to protect yourself from yourownself. If you stay the course, I promise you will get through this to the other side. 

Did you formally end it?

Clarity

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Registered: 07-04-2006
Mon, 08-25-2014 - 4:04pm
What I did was program my ex's number into my phone as "NO". So when I was tempted to contact him (or when he contacted me) I saw "NO" all in caps, and it was a reminder of why I didn't need to (or shouldn't) speak to or contact him. Use "NO" or "DON'T", and see if it helps.
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Registered: 01-09-2014
Thu, 10-02-2014 - 3:59pm
Masa, how are you and were you successful in keeping NC? Regardless if you did or didn't please know that tomorrow is a new day and you can start NC all over again if you fell off. Even if you memorize his # still delete everything that is associated to him. Get rid of anything he may have given you so not to have anything to make you reminisce. This is self preservation and you have to do this in order to be able to move on. I know you have no one to turn to regarding this but feel free to post or create an anonymous blog if you need to vent. You can probably reach out to some of the people here and perhaps that can help you through as well. Wishing you the best!