Day 3

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Registered: 02-01-2011
Day 3
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Fri, 02-18-2011 - 9:29am

Start of day 3 for me and I feel the worst ever today.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 9:36am
Breath daisy day 3 was my worst so far to..... Stay with me so we can't become tweeners together!
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Registered: 02-01-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 9:38am

I am with you!!

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Registered: 02-02-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 9:43am
Are you m daisy?
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Registered: 02-01-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 9:47am

yes. married 21 years.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:00am

((Daisy))

I haven't officially welcomed you to endings yet, so I extend my hand and hope you will grab onto it. The first few days....heck, the first few weeks will be very hard, but if you have been reading the other posts here, you've seen that NC works. It's just getting past that initial heartache, which sadly, is mostly caused by our own self inflicted wounds. Realizing that we put ourselves in such a damaging situation is a bitter pill to swallow. For now though, you need to concentrate on fighting those emotional winds of adversity that will blow through you mind continuously. Reading and posting here will ease them somewhat, but being gentle and patient with yourself will also help you through this storm.

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Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-02-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:10am
Same here the only complaint I have about h is hes grumpy but he works alot here's the worst h is very good looking xap not so much hes missing a front tooth the rest of em are not good....xap is terrible with money hes filed bnkruptcy taken payday loans doesn't pay his bills etc.... Hes not very smart quit school at 15.... His house is the biggest pig stye ever...he has a terrible lisp... Hes got psoriasis really bad but is lazy and doesn't use his meds so its always out of control.... He makes very little money and has no drive to do better..I could go on and on my h has a great job he always looks nice hes got his s**t together and he takes care of me this should be a no brainer!
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Registered: 04-01-2010
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:19am

Daisy,

It's not pathetic that you feel that way, honey. You are hurting. The emotions are really coming from all over the place. Your heart hurts because you hung your happiness on him and he's no longer there. Your soul hurts because you know what you were doing was wrong and it turned you into someone you didn't like. Your heart, head and emotions are all in conflict right now.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 09-28-2010
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:25am

Dear DW & LfH,

I remember that pain - at least I can imagine that level of pain. It has faded so far back into my memories that I have no feelings associated at all with xAP or the affair. And while you're likely unfamiliar with the details of my story, know this - my marriage had ended and he had a planned dday in order for us to be together. We looked for apartments, we had told friends ... when I finally ended the maddness, it wasn't because I wasn't getting what I "wanted" ... it is because through some of his wobbles I realized the insanity of it all.

It was this moment of sheer fear

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-01-2010
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:35am
daisyway3 wrote:

yes. married 21 years.

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.
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Registered: 02-01-2011
In reply to: daisyway3
Fri, 02-18-2011 - 10:45am

Thank you Always!

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