Day 5
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Day 5
| Thu, 04-15-2004 - 7:22am |
Good Morning - Thanx Humming , I enjoyed what you wrote . Our situation very differnt
OM ended A . I think what helped you do it was meeting a nice guy and good for you .
OM ended A . I think what helped you do it was meeting a nice guy and good for you .
For me OM ended it ! Rather harshly . Did not talk about it , did not return my phone calls ETC . I unfortunately have to see him at work occasionally OM is so nonchala about
it . When our job is over and I am alone I cry like a baby and want to call him so badly .
He is the jerk of all jerks and I still like this guy . I think I sort of know why I am
in a VERY UNHAPPY MARRIAGE right now NO way out . ( sexless - loveless ) So, I
am clinging on to OM even though we have NOTHING !!!
It does help me to talk about this . Where else can we go ?? For me anyway .
To all have a great NC - day take care of you hugs .

I hope you find your way out though -- with or without the cushion of another relationship. An affair just guarantees you live on a roller coater of emotions and guilt and shame and yes some thrills but the payback is just feeling awful basically all the time. It doesn't solve your marriage problems -- it's just an addiction that seems like away to avoid and soothe the problems. But the addiction causes you more pain and more problems and becomes a really vicious cycle.
I wish you the very best. I wish I had better advice for you.
Why is there no way out? Find a way. Make a way. Make either leaving the marriage a goal or work to remedy the marriage. It doesn't work both ways. Make the changes within yourself and go on with life, your life. Not dh's. Not OM's. YOURS.