It seems that you are feeling very much in distress, don't you? Let me ask you this, did it "end" between you and him before? How did it always "end"? That's what I am curious about. With me and my xAP it ended many times, but it also always started again in the same way, with him making fishing attempts.
How does he always contact you? By phone? If so, the wise vets here would tell you to get another phone number. Send no email. Nothing.
If you are worried about him appearing on your doorstep... Can you try to not be at home?
I understand why you are thinking about writing him a goodbye letter, because you might hope that he will stop contacting you after that? He will continue his fishing anyway, I am pretty sure of that.
I think it's best for you to NOT pick up the phone if he calls. And if you cannot stop yourself from picking up the phone, leave the house and keep yourself busy. You are not his toy.
I read your post 2x's and what you've said is all the truth, and isnt the truth what I want in all this? Yes it is and a little peace in my life, a little self respect back and dignity.
Yes it was tough ....but honest... thank you! Believe it or not I feel better. Id like to post more so check back later...I have to run Im due at my daughter in laws for a home interiors party.
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"Dont know what my next move should be."
Your next move should be to do NOTHING.
Hi Ladydeb,
It seems that you are feeling very much in distress, don't you?
Let me ask you this, did it "end" between you and him before?
How did it always "end"? That's what I am curious about.
With me and my xAP it ended many times, but it also always started again in the same way, with him making fishing attempts.
How does he always contact you? By phone?
If so, the wise vets here would tell you to get another phone number. Send no email. Nothing.
If you are worried about him appearing on your doorstep...
Can you try to not be at home?
I understand why you are thinking about writing him a goodbye letter, because you might hope that he will stop contacting you after that? He will continue his fishing anyway, I am pretty sure of that.
I think it's best for you to NOT pick up the phone if he calls.
And if you cannot stop yourself from picking up the phone, leave the house and keep yourself busy. You are not his toy.
hugs
htgo
Ladydeb, I bumped up a post in the Healing Library. It's called "why there is never closure" or something like that. It's very good.
Sue~
You know what you need to do and by going NC, it will be
Thanks for bumping that up for me and thanks for the support. Im going to read it right now!
It seems to me that everyone here offers me the same advice...do nothing....so I thats what Im going to do for once...nothing.
Iddy,
I read your post 2x's and what you've said is all the truth, and isnt the truth what I want in all this? Yes it is and a little peace in my life, a little self respect back and dignity.
Sue
I'm going to be tough here...I know you expect it, and so I don't want to disappoint :)
How is this Monday going to be anymore a painful eyeopener than the painful eyeopeners you are experiencing now and have been experiencing
Clarity,
Yes it was tough ....but honest... thank you! Believe it or not I feel better. Id like to post more so check back later...I have to run Im due at my daughter in laws for a home interiors party.
Okay Clarity IM BACK!! LOL
Geewilikas...I hate to think I beat you up...rather
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