Day 7 NC-how did I get here?

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Day 7 NC-how did I get here?
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Thu, 02-18-2010 - 9:37am

Hi all--first post here, lurk alot on EAS, but was since 10/10 on the MAS board.


Longest story short as I can, AP and I met thru work 18 months ago.

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Registered: 12-07-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 11:27am

Lilolita,


Welcome to endings and that was quite a story you have there. Your XMM sounds like a parasite, feeding off the sympathies and occasional feed goods of his current AP. Since he's had a string of them, he appears to be more emotionally involved over time, due to his need to whine, p*ss, and moan. ;-) I'm thinking he and his wife are poor communicators and this is why he seeks comfort outside of the home. My Xmm is not a whiner, but he's had several emotional connections with women since our A ended. Regardless, they are very insecure men and need approval however way they can get it.


I hope you can stay strong this time and keep that cell phone blocked. He needs to break HIS addiction to you probably more than you do to him. If course you are going to have some down days because that comes with the territory. You have invested a lot of time into this man, and now you will be facing the hard truth that it was just time wasted.


Please keep reading here every chance you get, visit the Healing Library for as long as you need it, and make a commitment to yourself that you are really done with this poacher. LC at the workplace *can* be done. I did it, and so have many others. I am 5 years out of my A now and still work very closely with XMM . Now he is JAM who has shown his true colors, or should I say my eyes now see them vividly, and he is not someone I would ever want to spend the rest of my days with. Retirement can't get here soon enough. ;-)


Again, welcome, and here's a (((Hug))

~ Iddy~

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-18-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 2:43pm

Hi Iddy, thank you and yes I have read tons of the Library below.

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Registered: 10-18-2009
Thu, 02-18-2010 - 7:40pm

bumping for some input --pls I know I am newbie, but need you all.