Day 8 NC....,

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Registered: 03-02-2014
Day 8 NC....,
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Mon, 03-10-2014 - 2:42pm

Well I made it to day 8 of NC, today is very emotional but I still have no urges to contact my xAP. 

I wish there was some sort of video or movie that shows you the aftermaths of an affair... The withdrawals you go through the hurt the pain the not wanting to eat anything, the crying the ups and downs the no sleeping the constant why is he/she on my mind 24/7...  I would have defiantly watched before my xAP and I got in to deep, and quite honestly I think I would have stopped knowing how I'm feeling now. 

I hope it gets easier with time...

Angel

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Mon, 03-10-2014 - 4:56pm

You would think, wouldn't ya.  But reading books or seeing movies or reading the experiences of those having gone through Discovery Days just doesn't seem to matter enough.

Now, perhaps if it were a see-into-the-future video where we see US...watching ourownselves go through the ending...maybe, just maybe...

It will get easier with time...really, it will.  Kudos to Day 8, Angel :)

((hugs))

Clarity

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Mon, 03-10-2014 - 5:52pm

Yes! A see into the future look at affairs and what they do, can do and the aftermaths...

I get the feeling from reading many posts that in time things get easier but you never forget, and that's what I want is to forget lol I don't want to have my xAP on my mind everyday... 

Angel

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Registered: 02-19-2014
Tue, 03-11-2014 - 8:14am

Not sure a film or video would have stopped me.  Maybe early before we had sex.  After that it was too far gone.  :(

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Tue, 03-11-2014 - 9:34am

it's defiantly tough, last night was rough for me, it's day 9 of NC today... And I woke-up saying to myself today I'm going to make it a good day... I'm a stay at home mom, so once the kids go to school I'm all alone to much time to think about it all. I try to keep busy so that helps.

Angel

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Registered: 11-04-2012
Wed, 03-12-2014 - 11:47am

That's great...it's all in our attitude.  When we say we are going to make it a good day, chances are high it will be a good day.

We are and behave in accordance with what we think. "Your mind is the garden...your thoughts are the seeds. You can grow flowers or you can plant weeds."

Today is your 10th day of NC...Congratulations!

((hugs))

Clarity

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Sat, 03-15-2014 - 12:00pm

Hi More more more

If you feel comfortable, why don't you start a new thread and share your experience with us.  Let us know how we can support you.

Clarity

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Ending an Affair Support Board