DDay Has Arrived

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2006
DDay Has Arrived
31
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 4:41pm

Well as they say the "prodigal son has returned" or make that daughter in my case.

 

Pages

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2006
Wed, 11-11-2009 - 8:20pm

There you go I already realized a step in this and edited my post!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 3:36am

Hey LD, nice to see you!


I suggest the book "Not Just Friends" by Dr. Shirley Glass here frequently.

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2006
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 6:21am

Hi Energy,


Thank you so much for your post, I posted this afraid I wasnt welcome here anymore because of my many stops and starts with him, and when no one replied I was feeling crushed.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2009
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 9:30am
Ladydeb
Don't ever feel like you cannot come here when you are NC or trying to go NC. That is what this board is for. And we will or have fallen and gotten back up. And the important part is getting back up, dusting ourselves off and going no contact. The only person we are hurting when we reengage in the A is ourselves. No one here is judging you, we just care about you. I'm glad that you are here and back and recommitted to NC. He is weak and a coward for staying with her for those reasons and treating you with disrespect. Your dream guy I'm sure is not a weak, selfish or cowardly man. You sound like a great, loving lady and deserve someone as good as you. A man like him does not deserve to even know someone like you let alone have your heart. So take back your control and give yourself time to get through this without him in the way. I was so dependent on my Exap, he had isolated me so much. He was the person that I went to for everything. He was like God to me. And when he let me go I realized he was never there for me it was all about him making himself feel good. that was painful to accept but in another way easier to let go when I realized the R wasn't as great as I thought it was. So I had to depend on myself, God, this board, my T and talking to my mom also really helped.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-03-2008
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 9:37am

"I have to decide how I will handle it when he calls in a day or two, Im trying to be strong and I know

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-24-2005
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 12:17pm

I just typed a


iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 12:44pm

Same problem With Clarity, my response just disappeared too!

Onward and upward.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2006
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 1:27pm

Withclarity,


Thanks for the hug and welcome back.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-28-2006
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 1:40pm

Energy,


As I posted to clarity, he hasnt ended us at least not yet but Im prepared that it may happen at least while he deals with her and his phoney guilt.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-25-2006
Thu, 11-12-2009 - 4:05pm

Definately take your power back from this man, a cheater, drinker, liar...........charming.

Onward and upward.

Pages