Dear GMLB, SNAP out of it!!!!

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Dear GMLB, SNAP out of it!!!!
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 11:46am

So I have been kind of in a funk lately and Im ready to get out of it. I woke

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:19pm

GMLB -

I really enjoyed your letter :) It really puts the stupidity in perspective doesn't it?! Have a great time at your reunion.

Bodhi

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:35pm

Hello GMLB...
I really enjoyed your post. I know it's very hard to try and convince ourselves...but how long do we really try and nothing changes? That's what I'm afraid of. I'm not sure what your story is or how knew or old things are for you, but I am just over a week of the ending of my A, and he is the one who ended it. I am married with two children..my H is also a wonderful man so what was I thinking!?...and why would I ever risk everything I have. Well...I don't feel like I'm happy but I want to be. I found a feeling with my xap that I do not have for my husband anymore. I wish I did because he treats me well and he is a wonderful man...however, like I said, how long do we try to convince ourselves so that feeling will come back? Will I ever be in love with my H again?..I don't know... Do I stay in the M and hope, hope, and hope some more? I think even before my A, I knew there were feelings for my H missing. I know I'm in a new position with very mixed emotions going in circles...but....

Tns

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:43pm
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:45pm

Dear GMLB,

You made me smile - what an amazing letter. I think it is so great to look at these situations from multiple perspectives (what would our sisters think, our boss, our children), including multiple perspectives that live within us - like our teen selves. I am going to write a similar letter because I think my 18 year old self would have some tough love for the present version of me. My 18 year old self had finally figured out a way to walk out of a very abusive relationship and not look back for a second. Oh, she's wise - just like your 18 year old self is.

Thank you for sharing. I hope you have an amazing time away. I think you'll learn further insights into this situation when you are surrounded by people who you knew - some who will have changed dramatically, and others who have stayed stuck back in high school. What a great opportunity to reflect.

Much Love; you're amazing,

TU.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 5:02pm

GMLB,


Your letter was GREAT!

Babysteps


...even if it is all I can do, I can take one babystep.


NC/LC since May 21, 2010

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Thu, 07-08-2010 - 6:22pm

Hi GMLB-

We all have funks- it's part of the process. My friend New Season calls them growth spurts. We can be cruising along just fine and then we get in a funk and it serves to remind us that we aren't out of the woods yet; that we still have a lot of healing to do. Kudos to you for writing that letter. It's funny and it's honest. It's so hard to be honest... sometimes even harder to see reality, but you do, dear, and that is a good step in the right direction. Now tell yourself to shake it off and have a great time at your reunion- you deserve it.

Hugs,

Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
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