Definition of TweenerVille

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Registered: 04-01-2010
Definition of TweenerVille
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Sun, 01-16-2011 - 10:03am

It would appear there are different definitions and views of arriving at TweenerVille. So, Iddy, please tell us exactly what the criteria are for achieving those wings and reaching

Oct. 12, 2010 -- began my personal search and rescue mission.

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Registered: 08-25-2010
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 11:10am

I'll definitely take Iddy's definition as "the one" but wanted to add my two cents.

For me, achieving tweenerville and NC were a big issue.

My understanding was any contact made BY YOU to xAP was in fact breaking contact.

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Registered: 11-22-2009
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 11:35am

The 3 month span for getting to TweenerVille begins with that first day of NC/LC. Cyber stalking falls into a gray area because you are not really making contact...but you are hurting yourself by doing it. I usually let this slide if someone admits to it. In your case, sending that txt was actually breaking contact but because

Be where you are; otherwise you will miss your life. ~ Buddha
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Registered: 01-10-2011
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 12:31pm

That is a good question.

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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 12:54pm

Good Stuff KHA!!!!

I was nodding in agreement.

I love to read when people GET IT. It allows me to see how much I "GET IT" too.

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 10-14-2010
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:00pm

Iddy,

having only been a TWEENER FOR ONE DAY...and enjoying the symbolism of THE WINGS :

FREE

FREE FLYING

FREE BALLIN

FREE FALLIN

FREE!!!!!!!

I SAY YAY!

To me, I can say that what TWEENERVILLE represents to me - is illustrative in my post a few days ago - about "RECAPPING the last 3 months"....here's how:

Usually in my past - when I've went through something REALLY TOUGH - everyday....seems like a NEW SURPRISE...until ...finally...having cycled through it so many times -and NO NEW SURPRISES...I begin to want to "REFLECT" ...to speak to the things ive learned during that period. It just so happens that the time I was able to do that "RECAP"...was 3 months out of the Affair. So, I think a well informed person (ClearGuidance)

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart... Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens. I started looking inside and went NC October 15, 2010
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Registered: 07-13-2010
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:08pm
I think Iddy's definition is pretty simple and is what I've understood a tweener to be since I started here...oh please don't take it away! Its cool to have something to work towards, a milestone to mark..AND I'm getting close! Thanks Iddy for giving leadership here and helping so many along the journey!
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Registered: 01-10-2011
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:26pm

(((IDDY))))

Handing out those majestic Tweenerville medals is one of the most positive and encouraging aspect of this Board.

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Registered: 01-10-2011
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:37pm

Thank you Newlife and thank you for being such an inspiration to so many ladies here (myself included) who are struggling to extricate themselves from the phantom of a fantasy roller coaster ride to self-distruction.

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Registered: 10-17-2010
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:43pm

Iddy I think the wings are an awesome thing for us to reach and achieve.

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Registered: 01-18-2010
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 3:43pm

Tweenerville (3 months NC), Supertweener, (6 months NC), someone mentioned Super Duper Tweener 9 months of NC) think it was Bodhi....either way keep em all. And last but not least (VET STATUS). These were landmarks for me. They were what kept me going.

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida

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