Depressed....

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Registered: 04-09-2010
Depressed....
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Mon, 04-19-2010 - 12:00pm

Everything that other pps has said have started evolving in my M.

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Registered: 04-15-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 12:25pm

"Right now I would like to grab him and just run somewhere!!"

It seems like none of the thoughts, feelings & concerns we expressed to you were taken to heart.

You are on the wrong board - please post on MAS.

LC/NC since April 14, 2010

"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it."
— Maya Angelou
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Registered: 01-18-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 1:48pm

sassya,


U

Luvin
Yo Soy EL Capitan de Mi Vida
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Registered: 10-25-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:08pm

Sassy:


Wow!

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Registered: 12-07-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:15pm

Sassy,


Sorry, darling, but this is not the place for your little pity party on how REAL LIFE is so hard and disappointing. Hello??? Who promised you a rose garden anyway? Have you always been like this? Thinking that M and having babies was going to be a 24/7 picnic? You mentioned self entitlement somewhere in your diatribe... Yep, people who have affairs, or even dream about having one, do have self entitlement issues....a/k/a being

   ~Iddy~ 


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Registered: 10-20-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:34pm

Can you hear me now?.....lol....Ok,

BE the change that you want to see in the world! Life loves me and I love life! <3
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Registered: 04-09-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 2:58pm
Well thank you ALL for your tough love responses! You won't see me on this board again.
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Registered: 01-23-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 3:31pm

Just in case you are still reading, I want to tell you that all affairs are destructive. You will find a place over at MAS where you and the other women can write out the fantasy life of Affairs and write about all the "wonderful" things they experience in their A. The hiding, the sneaky, the hanging on to their cell phones for one minute of conversation with their AP who loves them so much but keeps them in their place where they belong (second best at most). As long as their mistress doesn't threaten their real lifestyle and stays out of his RL he will whisper those little words in her ear and she will hang on his every lie. It's a sad lonely place to be the OW. It's a place where women go when they have hit rock bottom and feel like they have no other choice but to be some man's sloppy seconds. The women

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Registered: 02-02-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 9:25am

Sigh. I am glad I didn't see this earlier. This made me so sad. I remember feeling that way about my H and it wasn't my H... it was me. If you are still reading, I hope you take the time to get to the bottom of YOUR issues before you bail on your M and engage in an A.


Jane
NC/LC since January 28, 2010
http://secretlifeofjane.wordpress.com/
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Registered: 04-20-2009
In reply to: sassyea
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 10:13am

Man, the drug hits hard and it hits fast, doesn't it? Remember how it was for us in the beginning? What a slippery and steep (downward) slope! The lies we tell ourselves to justify our actions get better and more convincing with each passing day, with each little ego fix that dude bestows on us. It's only later, when the bitterness and disappointment hurts worse than the fixes, that we begin to wake up from the dream-cum-nightmare; then, we have the fog lifting and have to see ourselves in that really harsh light of truth and reality - and we don't like a single darn thing about ourselves or what we've done to so many innocent people. I see my old self in Sassy, and FUDGE, it hurts like hell to know that I was like that - that she's going to live the hell we lived; she's going to suffer like we did, and we are powerless to help her.

I wish she could see her potential AP for the man he really is. And see herself in the right light, too. He's no savior. He's a predator. He is looking at her like a lion looks at a wounded zebra and thinking "I could take that down, easily." And she's looking at that lion and thinking, "oh, he _likes_ me. giggle, giggle." Why can't she see, why didn't WE see, that she ought to be thinking of him like this, "Here is a defective, low dog who disrespects me, my husband, my family... and thinks I'm the sort of whore who f*cks around on my man, lies, cheats, steals. He does not honor me with attention; he degrades me." If she doesn't have the saving intervention of epiphany. I'm going to pray for her.

sad now,
Dee

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Registered: 01-23-2010
In reply to: sassyea
Tue, 04-20-2010 - 11:52am

I wish she could see her potential AP for the man he really is. And see herself in the right light, too. He's no savior. He's a predator. He is looking at her like a lion looks at a wounded zebra and thinking "I could take that down, easily." And she's looking at that lion and thinking, "oh, he _likes_ me. giggle, giggle." Why can't she see, why didn't WE see, that she ought to be thinking of him like this, "Here is a defective, low dog who disrespects me, my husband, my family... and thinks I'm the sort of whore who f*cks around on my man, lies, cheats, steals. He does not honor me with attention; he degrades me." If she doesn't have the saving intervention of epiphany. I'm going to pray for her.


This, my dear dee is GOLDEN!!!

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