I'm sorry for your pain and confusion but these MM become totally fickle when their marriage is on the line. All the things he said and felt for you were probably true at the time, but once they have to make a decision between the OW and the wife, the wife is going to win (If she still wants the Cad). You need to try and understand that XMM has bowed out of the picture to save his marriage and family. It finally came down to the end of the rope for him, and his wife probably confronted him with an ultimatum, which she has every right to do.
His changing shifts will be the best scenario for both of you. You need to move on, close this chapter in your life, and go back to dating again. Chock it up to one HE77 of an experience and try to extract the positive out of it and apply it to your future lover.
Stay strong, and don't blame yourself for falling into this coal pit. It happens. What counts now is how you will get out of it and STAY out of it. Affairs destroy, not build, relationships.
I am sorry for your pain, and all you've dealt with--but remember this: Anything that causes that much drama, can't be healthy for you. Sometimes we are so involved with people who are involved with another (their spouse or girlfriend/bf) and there is so much up and down drama involved. Sometimes the drama is addictive, it sure isn't boring..but it's not healthy. A healthy relationship with another adult should be our goal in life. A healthy relationship that means we aren't sharing someone, we aren't worrying about someone going back to someone else etc. Use this as a time to reflect on what you want in a partner. Take time for yourself and think in terms of what's "Healthy" for you and make it a point not to involve yourself with men who can't be YOURS from the get go.
I'm sorry for your pain and confusion but these MM become totally fickle when their marriage is on the line. All the things he said and felt for you were probably true at the time, but once they have to make a decision between the OW and the wife, the wife is going to win (If she still wants the Cad). You need to try and understand that XMM has bowed out of the picture to save his marriage and family. It finally came down to the end of the rope for him, and his wife probably confronted him with an ultimatum, which she has every right to do.
His changing shifts will be the best scenario for both of you. You need to move on, close this chapter in your life, and go back to dating again. Chock it up to one HE77 of an experience and try to extract the positive out of it and apply it to your future lover.
Stay strong, and don't blame yourself for falling into this coal pit. It happens. What counts now is how you will get out of it and STAY out of it. Affairs destroy, not build, relationships.
Good luck,
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