did I do the right thing?

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Registered: 06-06-2006
did I do the right thing?
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Sat, 10-10-2009 - 11:52am

This is my question - does it matter that I was less than eloquent when I

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Registered: 09-25-2006
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 12:45pm

EO,


What's done is done, don't overthink this letter.

Onward and upward.
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Registered: 06-06-2006
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 12:59pm

Energy,


Thank you. You are right. It's

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Registered: 02-05-2009
Sat, 10-10-2009 - 9:40pm

Hi eo,

Just wanted to give you a hug and say YES, you did the right thing. It doesn't matter how it ended or who was nasty to whom; the important thing is that it has ended. Don't dwell on it sweetie; just keep looking forward and focus on healing; the emptiness will definitely fade away. None of it will really matter, with time.

xoxo

trixie



"Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to dance in the rain.”
Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it is about learning to
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Registered: 10-21-2006
Sun, 10-11-2009 - 8:46am

EO~


Yes honey, you did the right thing. Welcome to the first day of the rest of your life. Sadly, affair endings are always painful and can get nasty sometimes, but apparently you have reached your "enough is enough." I remember how I couldn't come right out and say the words that it was over, and instead asked for space. . He had just come back from a trip to Vegas with his W and while he was gone I made the decision to end it. Maybe my never being to Vegas was the catalyst that brought me to my senses, but there were a gazillion other reasons it had to be over with.


What hurt even more was his cavalier attitude that he had no problem with my taking a break.

Iddy

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Registered: 02-28-2009
Mon, 10-12-2009 - 3:41pm

I have wondered that myself many times. It however no longer matters if I did the right thing or not. It cannot be undone. I probably given more thought and time could of figured out a better way to handle it but in the moment it seemed like the only option to ensure NC on either side. I had a talk with XMM's W and we reached an amicable agreement. I wish I would have been stronger and not had to involve her but it is just the way it happened. I have felt every emotion possible in the last two weeks also. I think it is normal.


 

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Registered: 04-16-2008
Tue, 10-13-2009 - 10:52am
hi and warm welcome.
honey, there are absolultely no rules in an A. and that includes their ending of them. and they always end. truly. in one fashion or another.
how you ended it matters not. you have. it matters not what you said, how you said it. or even when you said it.
i told my xap in a snow storm. and i never even waved 'good bye'. i was mean. but so what. it ended. a few months later, when it was over and there was a belated d=day...do you think he was kind and considerate of ME? nope.
the point is.....its over. don't look back.
you're not there anymore.
hugs
ls

CL-Lovely Starr


"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being hard."

CL-Lovely Starr

"No memory of having starred; atones for later disregard; or keeps the end from being h