Did I do the right thing?
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| Sun, 07-11-2004 - 1:32am |
I have know my MM for five years. We worked together off and on and were very good friends. The chemistry and attraction has been there since the beginning but we never acted on it. I am a single divorced mother of two children. I have been divorced and single ever since I met him five years ago. Well, he and his wife have horses and so do I. I had never met his wife except on rare occations until December 2003. She had an accident tring to stop a horse my daughter was on. She ended up having surgery and this is when it all started. She and I became "friends". The horses were the connection. Then it was like she always wanted me at the house. Constantly doing cookouts and riding and I would help take care of her son. This of course threw me and MM together also. That was like pouring gas on the fire we had avoided. Then it happened one night in May of this year. I was keeping her son at their house until MM got home....and it just happened...the kiss and the rest is history. She has been obsesive about having me around all the time. I know she has to since the attraction because it is very strong. Well, it was not long into the A that I knew this was crazy. She threatens to leave him about every month. And of course he says he wants to be with me but does not want to hurt her son that he as helped raise since he was five.
Well, when we are all together, it just eats my brain out to watch her with him. She has started pouring on the affection in front of me just recently. I know she suspects because of her actions. I told him Wed., July 7 that I loved him but he had to choose either me or her period. He does have a lot more that me to walk away from because I am single so I'm not giving up anything. I told him to take some time to think, but he had to choose. I left him alone, and he did call me Friday and told me he was still thinking about what to do and weighing it all out. It is about to kill me. I read the "Limbo Land" thing from be true and it was so true and helpful.
Help me....did I do the right thing by making him choose?
Carla

Keep us posted....you may need the support and guidance that we are here to offer...
Id
Don't you think I should wean her away too? I know she suspects.
Thanks,
Carla
Only IF it does not compromise your character anymore than this whole mess already has. How would you do that? (wean her?) Do you consider her a friend outside of your connection with hubby?
My suggestion would be to do something with her away from the home like shopping or lunch. NO need to do anything though if MM gives you the old "Heave-Ho" first. You sound like a very together - can get past this - gal....so I am banking on your success regardless of how it all unfolds....
Good luck,
Id
Carla
Best of luck.
Thanks for the support....again, I know the Lord sent me here for help.
Carla