Did it again....

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2005
Did it again....
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Tue, 03-15-2005 - 10:14am
OK..this board did wonders for me the last time I was in this situation and I was SURE it would never happen again. I don't know what my problem is. I have a great husband, great kids...no complaints. I have no idea what makes me do this. I think I like the badness of it....
The OM has been somewhat agressive and pursuing me for a while, I would say since about Sept or Oct of last year. I didn't give into him until January. He has a great personalitly and fun to talk to but if I was single, he would not be someone that I would be attracted to....so what is my problem??? He has girls calling him all the time, even when I am with him. I don't have any deep emotional ties to him...it's really just all about the sex, I guess. I really don't want to be doing this anylonger. It's grossing me out!!! Can you tell I am very confused???? Help!
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-02-2004
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 5:27pm
It happened again because either 1) you are on a self-destruction mission, or 2) you suffer from serious self esteem issues.. There could be a few other things going on as well, but unless you want to lose a great husband and destroy your family, I would suggest counseling PDQ. Until you get help, you will continue doing this until you are caught.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-10-2005
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 5:39pm
I agree with ID. Sounds like you are subconsiously seeing how far you have to go until you get caught. I have a problem with self destructive behavior as well. I don't like to be alone, but I seem to get into situations that would get me divorced. Good luck with the therapy route.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 03-15-2005 - 7:45pm

Confusion

Therapy is something you should be looking at ASAP, there is a reason for your actions and that reason needs to be address if your going to have any chance a decent happy life otherwise your going to go on destroying one marriage / relationship after another.

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