did you ever get them back?

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-27-2004
did you ever get them back?
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Mon, 11-29-2004 - 3:57pm

Having a really hard time here. I lost my wife 4 years ago because I made the mistake of my life. I can't blame her for leaving. I'd do anything, give anything to change it.

I'm sure this is nothing new. But, what I'd like to know is: after having lost your spouse due to your own stupidity, has anyone ever actually got him/her back? A second lease on life?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 8:41pm

"I'd do anything, give anything to change it. "


Have you said this directly to your ex?


Did she remarry?


Have you ever asked her out for another date and begin from step 1 as you would any other new relationship?


Do you have any mutual friends who might be willing to tell your ex the changes you've made in yourself and the solutions you've chosen to address the items that led to your break-up?


Have you said directly to your ex that you're sorry (and meant it this time) and ask her forgiveness and the opportunity to try again?


Be honest and kind to your ex regardless of her answers. Friendliness in the face of adversity and animosity can make a big difference in the future conversations.


Good luck,


cl-nre