Dining alone

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Dining alone
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 9:18am
It has been a few weeks since OM and I vowed to go our separate ways. He has a new girlie friend and I wished him well. His birthday was this Wednesday so on Monday I drove to his home and left him a gift on his porch, I then went to his place of work intending to leave him a birthday card on his vehicle telling him that I left the gift in an inconspicuous place. However I couldn't find his vehicle so I drove to a pay phone and phoned his cellular. He answered and indicated that he was fishing. I had time enough to say "I left you a present at your house shall I go remove it til a better time?" He responded NO and then our conversation was cut short by a lame cell phone. The next morning he phoned me at work to thank me for the gift and asked if I had heard his final words before we were disconnected. I had not heard him say "I'll be there in fifteen minutes." Poor guy flew home but I was gone.

But anyways yes we are doing the "go our separate ways" thing... but I mean the man is entitled to a birthday, right? The card was nice with polite sentiments, nothing mushy and I didn't sign it with love. I guess I felt he would be somewhat crushed if I simply didn't acknowledge his birthday at all (he shares a birthday with my deceased father so we've always talked about it.) He told me that he would be having company all week (meaning the girlie friend would be staying at his place all week) so I pretty much ended the conversation with the thought that I was really over with all of this. I have no intention of ever phoning him again. I have felt "done with it" for quite some time but I mean we can still be cordial to one another. Well this morning guess who was parked at my place of employment at 6:30 this morning. I had about 16 minutes before I had to be in so I sat with him for a few. He asked if I would like to meet for lunch but I declined. He said he wished I wasn't so afraid of him. In a nutshell I guess I lead him to believe that I simply wasn't ready to leave my husband to start a relationship with somebody I really don't know all that well. I joked "for petes sake where would I even sit to eat my breakfast at your home?" LOL There are so many unknowns. I thought that would be the easiest most polite way to let him go. But instead now he thinks I believe there is something wrong with him, like he's a weirdo or something.

elf - dining alone today