Disaster's a Brewin'

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Registered: 03-05-2004
Disaster's a Brewin'
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Wed, 03-17-2004 - 6:02am
OMG! I don't know what to do. Got a phone call from XMM. He blasted me. I was "told" to leave his family alone and that the next time I go telling people our business, I better tell the whole story. Here's the thing. I don't have ANYTHING to do with them, nor do I tell anyone anything personal. What I'd like to know is how she can turn this on me. We work in the same place. I know she's been telling people her side of the story and when people ask me what's going on, I simply say that he and I are no longer friends. She and I are still not friends, period. End of story. People know she and I never got along. I kept my mouth shut only because I couldn't get a word in edgewise. I just want to know, does he really want me to tell the whole story? At this point, I've got nothing to lose. Should I tell them that he persued me, that he emailed me and told me all the terrible things she did to him, that he told me how much he loved me and that he wanted to get her set up in an apartment before he left so we could be together? Does he want me to tell them that she's got a mental health history including attempted suicide and alcoholism? Or how about the time she told me that she wanted to lock her son in his room so she could kill herself? Does he want me to tell them that she constantly throws him out of the house, wishes him dead to his face and physically abuses him? These things are all very personal and I've never brought them up. Not to mention, I really don't know what version of the story he told her.

I was an idiot. I fell for what I knew he could be and I allowed him to use me as his "rock" when things were bad. Yes I told him "I love you." but doesn't somebody who's living that life deserve to have someone tell them that they are loved? Doesn't everybody? I'm just so angry that it's been brought to work. It's funny how people show their true colors. He is yellow. The biggest coward I've ever known.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2004
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 11:05am
Sweetheart, they want to bring you back into a bad situation. My advice, be silent. That way, nothing you say can be manipulated into what they want you to have said. You admitted you allowed him to use you. don't allow him to do that anymore. When asked, simply answer " I have nothing to say to you." If you want it to be over, no reaction will get to him and cause him to reevaluate himself versus showing reaction. They are trying to bring you down. DON'T LET THEM!!
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Registered: 10-16-2003
Wed, 03-17-2004 - 12:47pm
I agree with jlt -

Sometimes the best response is no response. Most of us regret the things we say, not the things we don't say.

Be strong, you are doing the right thing.

Good Luck