Do I break NO CONTACT to tell him.......

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Do I break NO CONTACT to tell him.......
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Tue, 09-14-2004 - 1:25am
It's been almost 2 months since the last day I saw, spoke and emailed MM! It's been almost that long since I stopped checking "our" email account. Today I was feeling nostalgic (or bored for a minute) so I signed onto our little secret email account.

There were several emails from him and the last one said "I guess you're not talking to me anymore".

Should I respond and tell him I no longer want to be a part of his twisted life......or do I let it be in hopes that he'll eventually figure it out?

When I allow myself to think about our relationship, I'm still hurt and upset about some of the things he said or didn't say (and should have) the last time we saw each other but for the most part, I'm still numb about what our relationship of 5 years did to me!

Maybe I'm just PMSing tonight and this too shall pass.

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Registered: 12-28-2003
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 1:46am
caring4me

NO do nothing at all to indicate that you even looked at that account, never look again, if you do anything to show you were there it will encourage him to come after you again.

It is not worth it, just say NO.

Free

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Registered: 03-30-2003
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 9:31am

In understand your temptation but if you e-mail him, you will throw yourself back 2 months.

Love
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Registered: 03-16-2004
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 9:36am
The fact that you were strong enough to not check your email account for two months is something you should feel GREAT about. Fulovlove is right, don't go backwards!!

I think there is something about the 2-month mark. For me, that was my weakest time. But if you ride this out without caving in & breaking NC, you'll come out of it in a far better place and you'll get over it a LOT faster!

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Registered: 05-07-2004
Tue, 09-14-2004 - 10:03am
caring4me,

I agree with everyone else - don't email him!

Congrats on the 2 months!!! It would only start the cycle all over again if you bother to answer him. How long have you waited for him to tell you what you want to hear? I found myself in this position and just realized that he's never going to.

Stay strong, and don't em him back. I think he'll get the hint.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 09-15-2004 - 1:34am

I have to agree with all the others. Do not respond!

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Registered: 11-19-2003
Tue, 09-21-2004 - 12:45am
THANKS Ladies! Haven't been here for a while, life has been keeping me busy. Just want you to know I've read your replies to me and not only did I appreciate them but I took them to heart. Before coming here today, I had to physically count my weeks of NO CONTACT! Proud to say, I'm starting week 10 :-)